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I read the article & I'm terribly sorry for you. I know its been more than two years since you've posted this but I just couldn't stop myself from making an account in here to comment. I really hope that you're happy now. You're articles name 'Life with my husband' is totally right but I don't really get the motive behind it. Just because you suffered you can not just blame the whole Muslim community. I think that you're just unfortunate or may be its because of your deeds. As it is very knowingly said 'As you sow so shall you reap'. May be your husband is one of the 100s or for you 10s or even 5 Muslim men who does such things but you can NOT blame the rest. A personal experience, I've grown up seeing my mom & dad living a very happy & peaceful life & they still are living.One day I was grown enough to know that my dad is my mothers second husband. My mother had married a Christian man. That was a love marriage just like yours but she had faced a lot more than you. She had to divorce him as she was a independent lady with her self respect, she could take care of herself & my sister ( I don't wish to call her my step sister). Then she met my father - who is a Muslim. They fell in love & married each other. Even she changed her name. Its been almost 20 years now I'm so sure that my father has never ever made her regret her decision. She's free to do whatever she wants. My mother & my sisters we happily meet her brothers & sisters & their family. My mother also does not regret accepting islam. She did it happily. You wouldn't want to believe this but my mother's first husband's mother (her mother in law) was also among the ones who was happy for my mother. Do you believe that ? Its alright if you don't. Not everyone is so fortunate. I don't really expect any reply for this but now since you know how my dad is, would you still say the same ? Trust me he's not the only one. It was your fate. Don't blame the Muslims. Not all 5 fingers are similar. I wish you good luck in life. Take care

Posted by: Ms. Saena L At: 9, Dec 2010 8:02:57 AM IST

This lady is very daring, eloquent and honest. I wish her the very best and all courage/ wisdom to deal with her life and her future. I saw a BLOG .....as to how a devout moslem views ...... a devoted hindu woman marrying a moslem man:- From a Muslim perspective a "Person of the Book" is a person of the Abrahamic root "book" of faith. In other words, another Muslim, a Jew or a Christian (or Noahide). Hindus are not accepted as People of the Book. I love the Bhagavad Gita and have even translated it into English (http://www.srijagannatha.com) however it does not qualify in this context. Hindus are viewed as infidels to Muslims and marriage between a Muslim and Hindu is strictly forbidden in terms of Sharia and Sunna. From a Hindu perspective, "God is One, the sages use diverse Names." In other words, ALL people of all faiths are part of the greater "Sanatana Dharma" (Path to the One) and so a Hindu would technically be allowed to marry a Muslim from this perspective (but see below). Gender roles in both Islam and Hinduism must also be considered in ways they would not apply in Western culture. A Muslim man can marry any female person of the Book (Muslim, Jew or Christian). A Muslim woman can ONLY marry another Muslim. HOWEVER Islam firmly believes that Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) was/is the final and greatest prophet. As a Muslim man/husband you are deemed responsible for the spiritual well being of your family. Now, as the head of the family it is within your right to "allow your wife to maintain false beliefs" however to do so will be viewed as a stigma against your devotion to Allah, subhana wa talla. A good Muslim husband will always insist his wife and children be good Muslims (even if he marries a Jew or a Christian). If not, many Muslims (most) will not consider the husband to be a good Muslim. This will have far reaching impacts for you in the masjid and beyond and should your children wish to marry within the deen the perspective in-laws MAY consider you wife's "infidel" beliefs a dis-qualifier for the perspective marriage. As a Hindu, her caste is very important. She is forbidden to marry below her caste but can marry one caste above her status (male Hindus can marry a woman from a lower caste and elevate them to their own caste). As a non-Hindu you are casteless. This means that while her faith acknowledges the validity of Islam as a Path to the One, since you do not belong to a caste such a marriage would be prohibited by devout Hindus for that cause. If she marries a non-casted (or sub-casted) husband of whatever faith she may, depending on her family and community, be viewed as an outcaste herself, as well as her children. Also, as a Muslim how do you feel about her worship of the murtis (ie religious images), which Islam views as idolatry? If she practices puja (worship) before such images are you OK with this? Such worship is not only a direct violation of Islamic law, but a serious sin according to the Qu'ran, al Hadith and Sunna. What if she seeks to train your children in her religious views. Traditionally Muslim men set the religious standard for the family and largely leave the religious education to their wives. How will your kids be raised? As Muslims or Hindus or... This is a very important consideration as well and one that rests heavily on the shoulder of any Muslim father. Also, according to the prophets of Islam, if these are indeed the Last Times that will witness the coming of the Dijal and Madhi, as many People of the Book believe, one of the early "purifications" the Ummah will perform will be to invade India specifically and wipe out all traces of Hinduism from the subcontinent. If this happens in your lifetime this will mean the death or forced reversion of your wife's entire family. Just something to think about. The differences between your two faiths are many and deep. To be a devout Muslim married to a devout Hindu will raise countless difficulties and problems for you both. My honest suggestion would be that this marriage should not happen unless you are willing to convert to her sect of Hinduism, she is willing to revert to your sect of Islam and embrace all that that entails, or you both decide to abandon you religious faiths and maintain this non-religious commitment (which of course I don't suggest for either of you). Considering the fundamental differences between Islam and Hinduism I would strongly discourage such a mixed union. ========================= Anyway , in this case our great admiration to this lady for her extra ordinary courage/ confidence and perseverance of her soul felt beliefs and thoughts. And ability to express so vividly and with forthright conviction. Wishing her all the Best .

Posted by: Mr. babu babu At: 10, Sep 2009 12:45:20 PM IST

Hi If you ever come out of these clutches , I will be the happiest person. For every problem , there must be atleast one solution. Only thing is that you should like it . Thanks ur brotherly

Posted by: Mr. venu kosuri kosuri At: 10, Dec 2008 11:15:13 PM IST

Hello there, the only thing we all can do for you is to wish happiness and joy for the rest of your life. Now that you knew you had the strength and courage to oppose and fight your parents for your loved one, you should be realizing that you are still the same person and can fight to become an independent person. Am sure you can decide upon how your future should be, rather than giving up everything for something you don't like or belong to. Am not saying getting separated is the best thing to do now, but instead urging you to think wise and take a good decision that would keep you and your kids happy for the whole rest of life. Make sure you have enough support outside of your present family, to hold your hand if you were to become all alone in your life at some point. Best wishes, may god bless you !

Posted by: Mr. Sri Sri At: 27, Nov 2008 2:39:22 AM IST

I feel sorry for you, but also i think this is a mistake u have made which u have to face it for your self and i pity u. but one thing i don understand is the reason u r still in that hell hole u being a modern woman should have walked out of that hell hole a while ago.

Posted by: Dr. Krish Reddy At: 20, Nov 2008 7:13:32 PM IST

i just read u r life story and felt bad for it... but you posted here to help other girls to don't make mistakes it's help minimum ppl here... take care u r slef

Posted by: Mr. Nagadhar� Bandi At: 14, Nov 2008 12:49:19 PM IST

I agree with u, its really heart touching, need to think twice before going for inter caste marriages, it may be musim, hindu, chirstian , jains etc

Posted by: Mrs. Madhuri Reddy At: 5, Nov 2008 12:39:31 PM IST

So sad yaar... first you come out... dont be there... take divorce. aap chahathi tho puri desh ke ladies ko unse alert karsakthe hai... we are in danger with 90% muslim. some muslim have very good humanity, every one knows that. but our politicians not taking any actions bcz for votes. what i know every religion got humanity. but i did not find in muslim. (sorry bhaiyyoo kisiko neecha karneke liye nahi just my exprnce). Hindhu, christian,ect.. her koi ehi kahatha hai ki dhushmanko bhi pyar se jeetho... per kyu islam me kisiko marneko kahethe hai... hareh mere bhaiyyo insaniyath se pyar karo majbse nahi. insaniyath se badke koi majhab nahi... ( manavathwanni minchina matham verokati ledhu )

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