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| Jahangir, I am very happy to know that you read my article. The whole idea of me posting my experience is somebody will learn from my mistake and do not go through the pain I have been going through. Good luck.
Posted by: Dr. H T At: 12, Jul 2004 9:55:19 PM IST
Hi H T,
you haven't lost anything from your life.
Beleive me. The time you spent in silent pain is not worthy. Marriage & Stay together is all NOT what is life?
Similar kind a situation happenned to my friend.
She married him with a long wait of 9 yrs in similar love what you underwent. Finally end up saying after 6 yrs. of marital life,
she wasted a lot of time in finding that other end of the tunnel is Filthy. She says he is not the person she was looking for.
you know time changes the person. you should have changed by now, rather thinking about a person who is neither talked to you
or known to you personally.
EVERYTHING IS MIND OR NATURE OF A PERSON REGARDLESS OF AN AGE. This is TRUTH.
what would happen if you would come to know that Rosy is not good at behavior, if she was married to you for several years?
And she never changes apart from your several tries to mend her(I apologize I don't mean to offend or talking about her character)?
If she keeps taking care only of her and disregard you? THIS IS PRACTICAL, MAY HAPPEN YOU KNOW IN THE PRESENT DAYS OF PRATICAL ENVIRONMENT
you would have felt different? then. YOu know how many people are suffering around family court to get rid of bad spouses, you can't imagine
unless you start making investigation into it. It is not necessary that both spouses are GOOD. Practically one IS wrong.
Why? no body can say why? That is REALITY. People are different, There are people out there who are really BAD, simply by their nature.
Believe in it strongly, and leave with your wonderful family happily ever after.
--Gauri
Posted by: Ms. G Nivedita At: 8, Jun 2004 2:24:34 AM IST
Ofcourse its hearttouching..but still..dont you think you have spent a mjor part of you life just by thinking about that gal?coz i do believe that luv is a part of life.
anyways..dont let this happen with your daughter atleast.
Posted by: Mrs. Sree Pavani Modem At: 12, May 2004 6:05:21 PM IST
Mee article chaala touching ga undandi....naaku edupu vachesindi mee article chaduvuthunte....ippudu mee health bagundani anukuntunnanu....
Posted by: vishnusathi At: 23, Apr 2004 5:17:46 PM IST
its quite boring ...
Posted by: Mr. Srinivas N Chowdary At: 3, Apr 2004 5:03:41 PM IST
So honestly expressed feelings.Just think if your wife had the same experience.The thought that rosy is happy with her life can soothe you.Your daughter is clever enough not to repeat any mistake.
Posted by: Ms. swetha kuchibhotla At: 2, Apr 2004 2:24:09 AM IST
Hello Mr,
Great u expressed it in a practical way...
I just started to read casually,but went deeply into it and came out emotionally at the end.
I share your sorrow for sometime when i am reading it.Want to say much but am not old enought for it.
cheers...Prakash.
Posted by: Mr. prakash mukala At: 1, Apr 2004 5:55:55 PM IST
Sir,I felt sad after reading your story. I think many people have such experiences in their lives. Only difference is you are keeping it to your heart and thinking about it always.
After reading your story I wonder why you couldn't express to her even though you were liked by their family. I think you were raised in a suppressing environment where you didn't even have freedom to express your views.
My sincere suggestion for you: Be brave atleast now since you are not depending on anybody. You are a Man.I am not suggesting you to have a small setup/family. Just find Rosy, introduce her to your wife and daughter and be in touch with her like family friends. Then you won't feel miserable.
Believe me,if you see Rosy now you won't get LOVE thoughts since she is middle aged and she may just look like another mature woman with husband and children. You didn't see her since your teen age so your mind is trapped in that LOVE environment.
Don't fear what your wife's reaction will be. She will be cool unless you go for a small setup:)
Hope you would follow my suggestion. Best of luck in finding Rosy aunty.
Posted by: Mr. Bobbili Puli At: 29, Mar 2004 11:31:49 PM IST
I sincerely appreciate everybody for taking the pain to go through reading the lengthy article and offering their comments. I believe in learning from others mistakes and not waiting to repeat them by ourselves. That was the only driving force for sharing my experience. As you can understand from my writing that I am not an author. It is very difficult to express one's feelings in words and specially who doesnot have any experience in writing. Looking at different angles, the same article will communicate different meanings.
Just before publishing my experience, for the first time in my life when I shared my experience with one of my colleague's the answer I got from him was that it was a 'Puppy Love'. I felt my parents and my brother might have felt the same way and acted accordingly.
As one commented I was too young and may be it was an infatuation. One may question how could I say that it was love when I did not talk to Rosy even once. One may also question if I know Rosy's feelings? The answer is a definite NO. All I can say is my father talked to me about my marriage with Rosy, and I did not share my feelings with my father just because it was a sensitive issue, I was young and shy, and I did not have the courage to express my feelings. I never questioned my father's wisdom. I think my father made a mistake by saying a no.
Does the age matter? I do not think so.
As for me marrying, I would say that I committed a big crime. I should have waited till I did not have any memories of Rosy.
As for marraige is concerned, since my marriage was an arranged marriage, I think my wife and her parents should have let known about me before our marriage. I shared everything with my wife except the reccurring dreams. Her feelings are that I am missing a closure.
Do I have any feelings for Rosy? Yes, I want to apologize to her for what had happened. Is there any potion available in the world that would let me forget my past and stop the reccurring dreams? If so please let me know. Can I control my feelings when I had thoughts about my past? Is it really possilbe to control ones feelings? Can the materlistic world buy happiness for me? My definite answer is a big NO.
As concerned parents we are more concerned about my daughter. Look where we are, as a prey in the land of sharks where every unimaginable thing is possible. My daughter is a teenage girl. Should I let her take the decision, if she comes to me saying that I love this guy, and I want to marry him? What advice do I have for her? What if her decision goes wrong? What if I ask her to go for an arranged marriage and she ends up having somebody like me?
Am I back to square one?
Posted by: Dr. H T At: 29, Mar 2004 11:20:08 PM IST
your article is very heart touching Mr.H T. ONE(he/she) always feel of not having what ONE(he/she) wanted which cant share with any one except by ONESELF(him self/her self). I am 100% right with 99.999 % of the people does have.
One thing a human can't do is 'Forget Past'.
Some things cant forget the whole life. thats the TRUTH.
But i feel one can divert mind to make heart happy is look in to the world who doesnt has what we have for example, eyes-think abt blind people, money -
think abt people with no food to eat , home - think abt who doesnt has shelter.
Life is like a day which has dark(sorrows) and light(happy momnets)
A day has 24 hours, a year has 365 days , and a life has a certain years..
So there is an End for everything.
ofcourse ,my comments doest divert anyone but believe it makes to Think.
Finally i want to really comment that that 'IF A PERSON DOEST HAS courage IS NOT ELIGIBLE TO LOVE'. That is ones own fault. but every one does mistake , think that if there is no night(dark) then no one looks for a light..
Thats the life you should accept it.
Posted by: Mr. Raj Chinny At: 26, Mar 2004 10:50:56 PM IST
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