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| Hi!i must tell you that this is really an interesting topic.What i dont understand is y do women expects appreciation at all.In a broader sense y do ppl expects appreciation.I personally dont like to appreciate anyone whom i love.Yes i do appreciate others at work because i have to.Mainly one needs an appreciation to satisfy ones ego.Appreciation is good if it comes unexpected.But if you r waiting for appreciation then i am afraid u(here 'u' doesnt apply to u alone) r in need of appreciation and is obviosly not good for any relationship.I m not saying appreciating ur wife is bad in any sense but what i am saying is it should come from within or it should be spontaneous otherwise if he starts complimenting for each n every dish or every dress u wear then i m afraid instead of enjoying his compliments u'll start doubting his statements after some time as it would only be a pretention.So husbands dont praise ur wifes if u dont want to but give compliments if you really feel from ur heart.
Cheers!!!
Posted by: Mr. rahul rahul At: 11, Nov 2005 8:51:51 AM IST
Jyothi garu,
Excellent article.I keep on asking my husband only one thing.If I ask him to help me anyday I am tired,he comes from the point what are doing to get tired inspite of doing all the regular work + extra cleanings somedays + bearing the allari of small kid.Then the discusiion grows and ends up with me saying,thats fine if you don't help me but atlease accept that I am doing a lot of work compared to you.Forget about appreciation but atleast they don't accept our hardwork for them and for the family...
I guess these articles are making everybody aware that whats going on with one person is the same with this entire world.Exceptions!!!! don't come into picture......
Posted by: Mrs. Prameela Munukutla At: 17, Sep 2005 2:52:58 AM IST
Thanks a lot, Venkat
Posted by: Mr. RaM G At: 2, Aug 2005 0:45:50 AM IST
Compliment!!!! We do expect same from wife. It depends on the situation. Even I do cook, clean to help wife this is after office hours. I hope many of males doing this in current situation. But where is the compliment? Just I would like to say, a compliment is not a big issue, just we have to fulfill our responsibility, Even its male or female. We are Indians. We didn’t learn (HI, How U R doing, Thanks, Excuse me ect) Just we learned all these here, If we don’t adopt all these we can’t survive. You wrote about Americans, Americans are Americans not Indians right? Do they daily pooja, do they do what ever Indian do? No right. Just I would like to say we should not compare with others. Yes we are we. Adopting good from others is ok. But 100% following them is not good. Most of them after roaming with more than 10 woman, then they marry one. We are not doing that right. I hope I had given good example here. If I do like to write I can 1000 + pages. It’s not the time for all those, I am not suitable too.
My final word: Please don’t expect some thing “for you work” let it come. Good luck.
Regards,
RaM
Posted by: Mr. RaM G At: 22, Jul 2005 10:45:27 PM IST
Hehe...
Im afraid, U R wrong Jyothy...
I do wish my girl everyday abt everythng she cooks...
Posted by: UK At: 18, Jul 2005 6:05:50 PM IST
I completely agree with you Mrs. Jyothy. This is a topic of discussion every where. I feel a pinch of drama is necessary in life. It does wonders.
I experienced it.
Posted by: Mrs. Kiranmayi P At: 14, Jul 2005 10:01:37 AM IST
hi jyothi garu, u right me'am . am a bachelor but i can understnd a feelings of women .women tend to be more romantic than men. They like to hear tender words, to be praised, to feel that they are being cared for, to be the main concern of their husbands and the one to whom he directs his ardent love. You love your wife and your heart is full of love for her, but she does not hear anything of it.
She deserves that you listen to her, praise her, and sympathize with her when she is troubled. She really needs this. She cannot ask anyone else for such things; she is a good believer and a sincere wife who can never ask another man for such emotions. Do you like her to be miserable? VINNI.REDDY.Do you accept that she suffers thirst although water is near but you keep it from her? You should know that her need for compliments and tender words is as real as her need for sustenance, clothing, and other things that you believe to be the source of happiness.
happy married life jyothi garu.
its dev-london
Posted by: Mr. devrajgoud kodipyaka At: 14, Jul 2005 2:13:22 AM IST
I completely understand and can empathize with you Mrs. Jyothy. There is nothing wrong to expect positive remarks from husbands. They just ridicule it saying 'filmi drama' but not so, just ego. One should be romantic enough to convey the thoughts, the love. Need not be a showy thing but there are many ways.
You write a story and let your husband know how you feel without saying it directly. cheppakanE cheppaDaM lAgA annamATa. Also until he changes do not tell him that it is you who wrote that story :) Again he can't compliment your intelligent, creative and romantic heart.
I wish to end it with a quote from the advertisement ---- hajbeMDs aMTE iMtE
Discourage kAkuMDA atanni mArchaDAniki prayatniMchaMDi. AfTarAl prEmiMchE bhArya taluchukuMTE kAnidEmiTi :))
Posted by: Ms. Prasanthi Uppalapati At: 13, Jul 2005 11:38:22 PM IST
yevari badhalu vaarivi.....
Posted by: Mr. RudraMoorthy T M At: 13, Jul 2005 4:22:36 PM IST
Nice article ! This culture should be developed. Husband got the first chance to appreciate his own wife first rather than anybody else.
Posted by: Mr. M Kumar N At: 13, Jul 2005 1:47:29 PM IST
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