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| jagruthi madam asked a typical question to gentleman. hello Mrs Jagruthi, its copletely depends on circustances. we have to understand the backround circumstances. ok ? if u want to discuss in detailed with me i am giving my mail id. plz send a mail surapaneny@usa.com
Posted by: Mr. venkata prasad surapaneni At: 19, Oct 2006 6:57:25 PM IST
As told by Mrs.Reena Sha, No girl who is sensitive and have minimum moral values won't object her husband loving his mother.
Its always son's responsibilities to take care of their mothers not daughter in law's.
Even after marriages Mother in law's shouldn't interefere in the family matters of their sons..
Wife and Husband should make descisions in their family.
After marriage mother in law's feel as if the daughter in law's parents have sold the girl to them and crib so much about their daugher in laws going their maternal home and taking care of girls parents.
Mother in law's should live this kindoff thinking.
Mother in law's always want to show off their grand son's ( they don't want grand daughter's) to relatives but they won't look after daguther in law's post or pre pregnant period.
I have seen many cases where mother in law's just want their son to listen to them.
Mother in law's should stop interfereing in their Son's family after certain age. they should not try rub their decisions on daughter in laws ...
Posted by: Sanvi Sarma At: 3, Aug 2006 2:26:59 PM IST
Kalyan
If the situation comes to me to decide Mom or Wife, I would give preference to my Mom.
As first commentor said: Yes my Mom is experienced and she knows very well about my likes/dislikes.
some one said husbands always Mom's party and wife is working hardly in office and home too...... Mother is enjoying life by watching movies and orders.....
If iam not wrong, this situation and characterization hapns in moovies, not in real life... No one could just expect any services from their daughter-in-law without meaning...
you can distinguish through your LIPS... Amma and Pellam...
Amma : close and open her eyes every time to
take care of me... even i had fight
with her, still she is with me.
Pellam: like tongue, if i had fight with her,
she rotates from me to her family and back.
above is my openion and Wife is better half and Worries Invited For Ever; also Wonderful Instrument For Everytime.
Posted by: Mr. Kalyan Ruttala At: 3, Aug 2006 4:41:34 AM IST
Background: I am
Male,
Married,
Got a baby,
If at all I can clearly draw a line between my mother and wife (even my daughter).. I will lean towards my mother first, then my wife then my daughter.
The reason??
When I consider them as three different entities from my point of view,
My mother alays breaths, sleeps, eats and lives for me from my first breath, she is very experienced, she knows where it pains in me, if anytthing touches me anywhere.. She takes any pain(literally any pain) for me.
Where as my wife: She is less experiencesd, she dont know what my mother knows about me. My wife is my peer where as my mohter(even her parents too) are very above then us. So, when there is an issue comes across where I need to compare between my mom and wife, I will first judge myself and convince my wife and even convince(or order) my mother, but never order my wife, I will just point out what I am interested in then I will leave any decision to her choice, if she didnt go with my choice, I will keep quite. But in case my mother didnt agree with my openion, I will even fight with her(but not serious one, since she is like my baby.. she wont keep anything whcih I dont like).
On the other hand, if my wife feel boared or any mis communication with me, she will say ' I want to see my paretnt' and go to India, but my mom never felt boared or even thougth of any moments being away from me.
So, I am AMMA KOOCHI, Mom's son, ant My wife's friend...
May be I will go with my daughter's openion later at my old age..
Now your time to flame on me :-)
-Sree
Posted by: Mr. PT PT At: 3, Aug 2006 3:39:05 AM IST
In most cases husbands listens to mother only not for the wife. I know many women who are working and have good carrier but still have to obey all the orders by mother-in-law, because husband allways support mother only. They have to do all the work in the office and home. Mother just enjoys watching tv and complaining about daughter-in-law and even some times about son for not buying properties on thier name.
If son is not taking care of parents means it's son's mistake not daughter-in-law's mistake. Common guys why u blame ur wife for ur timidness or selfishness. People always have the impression that we women won't let husbands to take care of their parents but it's not the case. As a husband and as a son it's man's responsibilty to balance between mother and wife.
Posted by: Mrs. Reena Sha At: 2, Aug 2006 9:26:05 AM IST
Stupid Article. You already have a opinion on the current generation of men. Then, what do you want to hear?
Posted by: Mr. telugODu telugODu At: 1, Aug 2006 3:11:37 AM IST
I am sorry to say that the facts are the other way.
Many parents, who have foolishly spent their wealth or earnings on their sons are today lamenting that their sons are hen-pecked. This brutal fact does not need much of demonstration. It is a commonplace feature. (This category of people are mainly in the age group of 60-70 years as on date.)
A person need not act as his wife's stooge, just because he married her. He can try to keep up his self-respect and do justice for both sides. Unfortunately this is not happening! Many sons are becoming ungrateful. What the parents need is not financial support alone. A kind word does not cost anything. Even that has also become too much to be expected these days!
Posted by: SATYA RAMA PRASAD KALLURI At: 1, Aug 2006 0:16:13 AM IST
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