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| I tend to agree Mr. Urchinni view.
Divorce was never a part of our indian tradition. Marriage is sacred bond.
There is no question of divorce if there is no marriage. How many marriges are sacred these days. Don't jump on me for saying this. I am sure you all of you would agree with me after reading my argument.
What is primary criteria for selection of partner these days. Good match for the groom is the one that offers more dowry, beautiful bride, in-laws status in society etc., On the other hand for the bride, it is good job, handsome salary, groom living overseas etc.,
Where is the sacredness in bonding two people for their life time. It took me 2-3 years to find a "Friend" in a new place(all others are colleagues/classmates/roommates). How could we expect bride/groom to choose their life time partner with a photo and a visit to their house(Pelli choopulu). Ofcourse, our elders often disagree with Love marriages, where there is a considerebale interaction between bride & groom.
The sacredness is preserved only in the mantras chatted in the marriage ritual not in the actual bonding.
Now coming to the original subject, after reading above discussion, isn't it fair to offer a second chance to the person (Could be bride or groom) who scorched his/her hands in this contract. Do they have to follow through the mis-step through out their life time just because marriage is sacred. Let the society not force discontent couple to live together just for the sake of society or religion.
By now, most of you may have started cursing me for questioning our religious principles. Any society will flourish if the individual suffering is considered, for it is the individual that can practice religion and a group of individuals with common faith will form a religion. Gautama budha was not given due attention when he proposed his views. Those were labeled radical at that time and are now practiced as a religion.
I do not recommend copules to divorce upon trivial things. Accomodate the one dear to you to the farthest extent, far beyond you accomodate a friend, as you can choose your friends but not relatives. To live happily, it is very important that we understand and adjust with the one we need to.
Anyway, i am happily married(arranged) for 4 years now. Don't consider my views are due to my unhappy marriage.
Posted by: Mr. Krishna Kotha At: 18, Oct 2003 7:50:00 PM IST
Divorce is just a formal and legal step in breaking away the marriage. But I believe, there are far more couples who are informally divorced and yet live together( atleast look so) for the sake of others(parents, relatives and so called damn society).
I don't think, we can compare your spouse with parents and a child. WE have CHOSEN a friend to be the companion for the rest of the life, OUT OF OUR OWN CHOICE. The society called it a marriage/co-living/.....! Doesn't matter, what name it gives. And, it is a fact that people and their attitudes change ALWAYS. If at a later point of time, I/she find that we can no longer live together, Why should one change him/herself or try to chage the other. I respect others' values and their individuality. The best way is to part and live themselves away. End of it.
Do what you believe in and what your conscience say. Don't go by the damn SOCIETY.
All these so called evils, as the previous comments mentioned, like dowry, have been created and fuelled by this god damn society. The moment you start living based on your conscience and values, everything else will start changing.
Remember, the YOU in the society is doing all this crap, so the change has to begin right with YOU.
Posted by: urchinni M At: 5, Sep 2003 11:49:13 AM IST
Read this
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Both Husband and wife should not thing for divorce at all. It will impact on there children.
It is parents responsibility to teach kids about the importents of relationship and importents of life partner from the beginning.
Thanks Prof. Garu for for a Wonderful Article.
Posted by: Mr. Balaji K At: 27, Aug 2003 8:02:09 AM IST
DIVORCE CAN BE TAKEN BY HUSBAND AND WIFE. DIVORCE SHOULD NOT BE GIVEN TO MOTHER AND FATHER. IF THEY ARE PARENTS, THEY SHOULD ADJUST FOR CHILDREN. IF THEY SIMPLY COUPLES, THEY CAN TAKE DIVORCE
Posted by: Mr Sambasiva Rao Vanimireddy At: 26, Aug 2003 1:23:23 PM IST
Sir,
Your article is thought provoking. You have written a great message in a simple nerration that all of us could understand and think over it.
I guess it all depends on "Art of Reconciliation", because disturbances are in every kind of relation. One that could survive them survives.
I would certainly like to read more of ur postings.
Thanks a lot
Posted by: Mr. antha nijam At: 26, Aug 2003 2:12:35 AM IST
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