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Articles: My Thoughts | | Unconventional Marriages | |
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| Hmmm ..... Mindset makeover is needed. Basically in this kinda system, it is difficult coz, caste and religion....we see it anywhere and everywhere. In the forms wwe fill for various things, they ask our religion. next, it is caste..whether it is OC/BC/OBC/SC/ST etc. As long as such kinda things go, those marriages u mentioned will be 'Unconventional' only. Ofcourse, with some kinda understanding, I guess those couple and their families can be happy too.
Posted by: Ms. Sowmya V.B. At: 16, Apr 2006 11:34:31 AM IST
hai, i read ur article. Unconventional Marriages.I think u r the gal with thoughts similiar to mine. I can be ur goodfriend.bye
Posted by: Mr. Srinivas teja D.Srinivasteja At: 11, Jan 2004 3:48:56 PM IST
S.S. gaariki,
Felt very sorry to know about your experience. If our own parents can't understand us, it is really heart-breaking. Mostly Parents think that Children Love and Respect them only if they "Do whatever they say".
(some people think exactly reverse to me and say that Children feel the same about the Parents). But it is we, children, should lead our lives together. It is a life long bond. It is a very great relationship. "Arthanareeswaram". Anta goppa relationship maintain kaavaalante okalla meeda okallaki Prema, gauravam undaali. Ante kaani, "Gangireddu laagaa tala oopi chesukolemu kadaa". Andaroo manchi vaalle, kaadanamu. kaani manasuku nachina vaallathone poorti santhoshamgaa, trupti gaa jeevinchagalam.
Baadhapadakandi. Mee husband ki mee meeda prema tagganantavaraku, meeru dhairyamgaa undavachu. Tappakundaa mee pedda vaarilo maarpu vastundi. It is a matter of time. Parents-Children Relationship ni yevaroo tuncheyaleru. kaani meeru preminchina vaallani chesukoleka pote, oka vela mee parents tarvaata artham chesukunnaa, mee relationship untundaa assalu? yeppatikee yerpadaledu. kaabatti meeru right decision teesukunnaaru. I fully support you.
Nag garu,
My total point is that, atleast language should be common for guy and girl. Else, it is a disaster.
Nothing can be a disaster or an obstacle if the couple truly loves each other, have mutual respect, have some dreams about togetherness and maturity to sustain in a great relationship etc.,,
Coming to People and Families, ee rojullo yenta mandi , viyyankula illaku velli vaallatho relationship maintain chestunnaaru? andaroo busy busy. pellillaku kalavadame goppa. kaabatti ilaanti paristitullo ee point ni base cheyadam artha rahitham. Asalu yenduku kalavakoodadu? oka vela kutumbaalu kalavalekapovadam valla nashtam yemiti? kutumbaalu kalavakapoyinaa nashtam ledu. kaakapote iru vaipula vaallu couple tho manchi relationship maintain cheste chaalu.(in my opinion). andaroo cheppe vishayam,
"Bandhutvaala kannaa Snehaale goppavani". mari bandhuvulaki mana meeda nijamgaane prema unte, tappaka mana "jeevithaaniki" sambandhinchina vishayamlo manalni encourage chestaaru. Atleast even after we make it a success, they will come to us.
Annitikee minchi, manam alavaruchukovalasindi, Vyakthi ni Vyakthi gaa gauravinchagalagadam. Alaantidi yeppudaithe untundo, appudu yevaritho "Communicate" cheyaleni "balaheenata" undadu. yenni differences unnaa, maatlaadachu.
with regards,
Prasanthi.
Posted by: Ms. Prasanthi Uppalapati At: 12, Jan 2003 11:03:31 AM IST
Prashanthi,
This article depicts my thought..I strongly support your statement "parents overlook their children likes for society".
Posted by: Mr. Nagendra Prathap Gondhi At: 12, Jan 2003 10:16:01 AM IST
Lakshmi,
I will explain my point logically. When a guy and a girl marry, things won't stop with just the marriage. Two families (guy's family, girl's family) will be related, and from then on, they become relatives. When two people (i mean, the two families) want to talk with each other, there should be something common with them. The word 'common' is the important thing here.
If someone from middle class marries someone who is a millionaire, can the two families communicate properly?? They can communicate, if the two families are broad minded. If they both respect each other. Ok, these kind of differences also we can get alon. For example, if an Arya Vysya guy marries a Brahmin girl. Vysyas marriage goes for 2 days, for Brahmins marriage goes for couple of hours. Vysyas--marriages are kind of extravagent, brahmins -- not much..Okay, these kind of differences also we can get along. Some castes they eat non-veg, some only vegetarian... One more difference, but people can get along.
Let's say, for example, I marry an American girl. That just ends my relation with INDIA.
My wife can't communicate with my parents, my parents can't communicate with her parents. In Indian society, Marriage is not just about two people, it is about two families. Marriage is about communication.. The better you communicate, the prosperous it will be. This is one difference we cannot get along.
My total point is that, atleast language should be common for guy and girl. Else, it is a disaster. With related to my parents, I am sure they would accept if I marry someone from outside my caste, as long as they are vegetarian. (I don't know why ?). Even, I would prefer any one who is telugu speaking.
But, I tell you what...When a guy and girl like each other, they will do whatever to marry each other. The parents should be broad minded to understand their wishes, and think that it is their children who are gonna be happy.
Posted by: Mr. n m At: 28, Jul 2002 12:41:52 PM IST
I completely agree with you. I married my husband 7 years ago, he too is a brahmin but from another state. my parents have since stopped shunned me. i still maintain a relationship with thme as i feel they are my parents but they tell me evetytime i call them that i am dead for them. my husband and i were in deep trouble for some years and all we needed was some mental strenght from our parents which they did not give. everytime we had a failure in life they said, see this is what happens when you go against our wishes. my own parents did not even come to see me when i was admitted to hospital some years ago for a serious problem. we have left any hope of love or affection from them but we will certainly teach one thing only to our children....LOVE ALL.
Posted by: Ms. S S At: 18, Jul 2002 4:27:39 AM IST
Agreed!
Posted by: Mr. Sasidhar Gundimeda At: 12, Jul 2002 0:47:36 AM IST
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