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Articles: My Experience | Friendship
- Mrs. manjari
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Many people say that they are not able to find a true friendship or a true friend. Why the reason as per my experience is these days peopMany people say that they are not able to find a true friendship or a true friend. Why the reason as per my experience is these days people do not have time to think about others. If we meet someone we say 'Hello'. Then we find them interesting and there is mutual commonality in thoughts and if one enjoys the others' talking and their company, they generally would like to make friendship. Here as a parent and as a grown up person, as per my experience what I have seen is sometimes we make good friends but we delay in really recognising who is our 'True' friend. There is a saying 'A Friend in Need is a Friend indeed'. But to my experience, trusting someone to be our friends and going out of way to help them and ultimately realising that they just made use of us and exploited our weakness or sensitive nature, gives us pain.
It can happen amongst ladies or men. We trust someone and share our feelings and concerns and seek advise thinking that they are our good friends because of the interest they show in us. But ultimately a day comes when we realise that the other person is just collecting information and exploiting and manipulating it for his or her own end.
So, how do we get a true friend? It is very difficult these days. Children are also grown up like that. There are few exceptions to this. If a person is strategic, selfish or jealous he or she can never become a good friend to anyone. In friendship there will be no comparisons, no jealousies. There can be healthy discussions and confrontations, which help each other for positive growth.
Sometimes, we do get good friends, but we make a mistake in identifying them. It is genuine concern and genuine interaction without selfish or dirty motives, which makes two individuals friends and it will last long if the motive is clean. I think we have to really teach children the concept of friendship. If parents tell their children to make friendship only with the top ranking kids or rich people in the class, it is not a healthy concept. Anyway, this is a short expression from me. Hope people will understand the word 'Friend' and really make a good meaning of it.
Friendship is real understanding of each other and there is also need for each other to emotionally share their feelings whether they are personal or professional. In friendship there are no barriers. But there are certain limits too. One should not offend the other deliberately. Friends should be there for good advise, guidance, sharing pain and pleasure. Friendship again should not be a need-based relationship. It should be from within a genuine feeling of wishing each other good. Sometimes friends are more valued than relatives. To become friends is easy. But how long the friendship lasts is a big question. So sometimes, we experience, friendships made in haste will not give us good fruits. They leave us shocked and sometimes we get frustrated and stop believing anyone.
We come across so many people in life. They are just acquaintances. By meeting often or laughing together we will not become friends. Real friendship is proved when the other person really needs, can we jump in help them out of the way? Yes. I have seen people like that. It was some decades ago. But now, you have to doubt your own shadow. That's all because of the polluted thoughts and selfish and ulterior motives of individuals.
So, when we say about someone 'He or She is my best friend.' Think twice. Are we dishonoring that word? Here, I am not discouraging. There are definitely people who are ready to do any sacrifice for friend's sake. But very rare.
If we want to build up the society for healthy trends, we should inculcate in ourselves a type of giving attitude and having the pleasure of seeing happiness in others eyes if we take them as real friends. Do not give tears by making false friendships. These days, there are net friends, chatting friends, and there are also people who cheat young girls on net posing like youngster and wasting their time and ruining youngster’s lives too. So this world is really going to nuts. We find real friendship only among innocent children who are just below 10. After that we pollute their minds and the real nature of the person becomes dormant. We should try to awaken it and again try to give true meaning to the words, if we want to use them in real sense.
le do not have time to think about others. If we meet someone we say 'Hello'. Then we find them interesting and there is mutual commonality in thoughts and if one enjoys the others' talking and their company, they generally would like to make friendship. Here as a parent and as a grown up person, as per my experience what I have seen is sometimes we make good friends but we delay in really recognising who is our 'True' friend. There is a saying 'A Freind in Need is a Friend indeed'. But to my experience, trusting someone to be our friends and going out of way to help them and ultimately realising that they just made use of us and exploited our weakness or sensitive nature, gives us pain.
It can happen amongst ladies or men. We trust someone and share our feelings and concerns and seek advise thinking that they are our good friends because of the interest they show in us. But ultimately a day comes when we realise that the other person is just collecting information and exploiting and manipulating it for his or her own end.
So, how do we get a true friend? It is very difficult these days. Children are also grown up like that. There are few exceptions to this. If a person is strategic, selfish or jealous he or she can never become a good friend to anyone. In friendship there will be no comparisons, no jealousies. There can be healthy discussions and confrontations which help each other for positive growth.
Sometimes, we do get good friends, but we make a mistake in identifying them. It is genuine concern and genuine interaction without selfish or dirty motives, which makes two individuals friends and it will last long if the motive is clean. I think we have to really teach children the concept of friendship. If parents tell their children to make friendship only with the top rankign kids or rich people in the class, it is not a healthy concept. Anyway, this is a short expression from me. Hope people will understand the word 'Friend' and relaly make a good meaning of it.
Friendship is real understanding of each other and there is also need for each other to emotionally share their feelings whether they are personal or professional. In friendship there are no barriers. But there are certain limits too. One should not offend the other deliberately. Friends should be there for good advise, guidence, sharing pain and pleasure. Friendship again should not be a need-based relationship. It should be from within a genuine feeling of wishing each other good. Sometimes friends are more valued than relatives. To become friends is easy. But how long the friendship lasts is a big question. So sometimes, we experience, friendships made in haste will not give us good fruits. They leave us shocked and sometimes we get frustrated and stop believing anyone.
We come across so many people in life. They are just acquaintences. By meeting often or laughing together we will not become friends. Real friendship is proved when the other person really needs, can we jump in help them out of the way? Yes. I have seen people like that. It was some decades ago. But now, you have to doubt your own shadow. That's all because of the polluted thoughts and selfish and ulterior motives of individuals.
So, when we say about someone 'He or She is my best friend.' Think twice. Are we dishonouring that word? Here, I am not discouraging. There are definitely people who are ready to do any sacrifice for friend's sake. But very rare.
If we want to build up the society for healthy trends, we should inulcate in ourselves a type of giving attitude and having the pleasure of seeing happiness in others eyes if we take them as real friends. Do not give tears by making false friendships. These days, there are net friends, chatting friends, and there are also people who cheat young girls on net posing like youngster and wasting their time and ruining youngsters lives too. So this world is really going to nuts. We find real friendship only among innocent children who are just below 10. After that we pollute their minds and the real nature of the person becomes dormant. We should try to awaken it and again try to give true meaning to the words, if we want to use them in real sense.
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