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Articles: My Thoughts | praema anTae?
- Mr. Aandhrudu
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praema anTae aenTani ee madhya okariddaraDagaDam jarigindi. pradhaanangaa ee confusion nijangaa okaru bhaavinchinantagaa aemee laedu. aitae ee kramamloa iddaru vyaktulu involve avvaDam valla praema anaDaanni elaa anchanaa vaeyaaloa oka benchmark koasam chooDDam charchaneeyaamSam avutundi. nijaaniki aakali anTae aenTi ani aDigaaranukoanDi elaa nirvachistaamu?...adoa anubhooti. adi kaDupuloa manTagaa unDaDam ae tinDi padaartham choosinaa noaTloa laalajalam ooraDam..ilaa cheppukunTaamaa?.....aitae praema annadi oka phenomenon . adi oka process loa veluvaDae vishayam. adi sandarbhaanni baTTi involve aina vyaktula baTTi vaataavaraNaanni baTTi vaividhyam santarinchukunTundi. ee vyaasam chaalaa roajula kritam raasindae. aitae readers ku aemainaa upayoagapaDochchaemoa ani maLLee articles feature loa konni maarpulu chaerpulatoa post chaestunnaa.
praema kalagaDam anTae aenTi?…praema kalagaDam aenToa artham chaesukoakunDaa elaa praema kalagaali elaa praema kalugutundoa artham chaesukOvaDam kashTam. asalu vyakti praema kalagaali anae vishayamloa consciousgaa unDaalaa? ee abhipraayaalu chadivina tarvaata apuDu ee sandaeham clarify kaavachchu. ika praema kalagaDam anTae aenToa... oa saari aloachiddaamu. Oka manishiki daggara kaavaali anna anubhooti praemanaa? oka vyaktini ‘ishTapaDi’ aa vyaktitoanae taanu gaDapaali ani koarukoavaDam praema kalagaDamaa? ayitae induloaa Saareeraka aakarshaNa bhaagam enta? manam jaagartagaa aloachistae praema kalagaDaanni ilaa kluptangaa nirvachinchukOvachchu. “
sahaja Saareeraka aakarSaNatoa paaTu eduTi vyaktini tanu geesukunna laedaa tanu bhaavistunna oka ‘ vyaktigata valayamloaki aahvaaninchaalanae bhaavanatoa paaTae eduTi vyakti yokka ‘ vyaktigata valayaMloaki pravaeSinchaalanae oka balamaina tapana kalagaDamae praema kalagaDangaa” cheppukovachchu. ikkaDa ‘ vyaktigata valayam ‘ anae padam vaaDaDamloa uddeSam
aenTanTae “chaeruva kaavaDam “ “daggara kaavaDam” anae padaalanu paroakshangaa marinta nirdushTangaa nirvachinchaDamae. inkaa ee nirvachanaanni konta viSadeekarinchaalanTae……praema kalagaDaaniki kaavaalsina prerequisites :
(a) sahaja Saareeraka aakarshaNa unDaDam anTae kuroopini praeminchalaemaa?….khachchitangaa praeminchagalam !. ayitae appuDu Saareeraka aakarshaNa praadhaanyam taggutundi. alaa ani Saareeraka aakarshaNa assalu unDadu ani cheppa kooDadu. degree will vary ! . endukanTae adi prakRuti sootraalakae viruddhamu. andukae daanni sahaja aakarshaNa annaamu.
( aa ) eduTi vyaktini tanu geesukunna laedaa tanu bhaavistunna oka ‘ vyaktigata valayaMloaki aahvaaninchaalani balangaa anukoavaali laedaa anipinchaali. anTae alaa manishini doorangaanae unchutoo alaanae unchaalani koarukunToo paiki maatram “neevanTae naaku enta praema telusaa “ anToo… valentine’s day naaDu oa veyyi rupaayalu koTTi gift taevaDam kaadu. eduTi vyaktini tana manishigaa
feel kaakunDaa praema kaligindi ani cheppukoavaDam aatma vanchana tappa aemee kaadu.
mari eduTi vyaktini tama “ vyakti gata valayaMloaki aahvaaninchaalani eppuDu koarukunTaaru? idi chaalaa pradhaana vishayam. eppuDaitae eduTi vyakti tana laagae laedaa tanu aloachinchae vidhaanaanni majority portion accept chaestaaDani laedaa respect chaestaaDani anchanaa kaliginappuDu maatramae aTuvanTi bhaavana kalagaali. anTae oka aaloachanaa saaroopyam laedaa bhaava saaroopyamu gurinchi anchanaa laekunDa praema kalagaDam saadhyam kaadu.
ippuDu oka vyaktiki sangeetam anTae entoa ishTam. aa vishayam maatram ae kaaraNaala reetyaanoa raajee paDani vishayam anukoanDi. laedaa tana talli antae entoa ishTam…aameku vyatiraekangaa aemee chaeya kooDadu anae tatvam anukoanDi…laedaa daiva bhakti ekkuva…. ilaa ennoa aloachanalu ..…abhiruchulu. manishi geesukunna vyaktigata valayam loa ivannee unTaayi.
anduloa konta raajee paDae amSaalu unTaayi. konni assalu saDalinchalaeni vishayaalu unTaayi ee vyaktigata valayamloa. veeTiki eppuDaitae oka secured bhaavana kalugutundoa
appuDae eduTi vyaktini mana vyaktigata valayamloaki aahvaninchaalani oka urge ku foundation aerpaDutundi. oka donga unnaaDanukoanDi….donga tanam anTae entoa makkuva….tana aloachanalanu angeekarinchae manishitoa sahajangaa aa vyakti secured gaa feel avutaaDu…tappa…eppuDoo “ee vedhava donga tanam vadilaeyi “ ani poaru peTTae strIni prefer enduku chaeyaali? enduku irritate avutoo aame saangatyam koarukoavaali provided all other things are same ?
ika chivarigaa… eduTi vyakti yokka ‘ vyaktigata valayaMloaki pravaeSinchaalanae oka balamaina tapana kalagali. enduku? aem laekapotae praema kalagakooDadaa? alaa aamenu choostoo alaa jeevitaantaamu gaDapalaemaa? jaagartagaa gamaninchanDi. inkaa manam tyaagaala gurinchi charcha chaeyaDam laedu ikkaDa. elaa unDaali ani maatramae maaTlaaDutunnaamu. oka vyakti eduTi vyaktini tana valayamloaki aahvaaninchaalani koarukunnaakaa…eduTi vyakti valayamloaki kooDaa pravaeSinchaalani koarukoavaDam enduku? asalu eduTi vyakti yokka ‘vyaktigata valayam ‘ loaki pravaeSinchaDam anTae aenToa chooddaamu modaTa. aa tarvata alaa
enduku bhaavinchaaloa chooddaamu.
okasaari oka vyakti tana ‘valayamloaki aahvaanichaalani koarukunnaaka... anTae tanaku chaeruva kaavaali ani koarukoavaDamtoa paaTu…eduTi vyakti “ valayamloaki ravaeSinchakunDaa unDi…antae tanu kooDaa eduTi vyaktiki chaeruva kaavaali anukoakunDaa praeminchaDam elaa saadhya paDutundi? eduTi vyakti daggaraku raanistaaDaa / stundaa adi vaerae vishayam !..
basic gaa aa tapana praema kaligae vyaktiloaa undaa laedaa? unDaalaa vadda?….udaaharaNaku oka ammaayi oka abbaayi antae ishTapaDindanukoanDi. “ neevu maatram naa chaeruvaku raa… naenu nee chaeruvaloa unDakapoayinaa parvaalaedu . ayinaa naenu ninnae praemistunnaa anindanukoanDi…” aa abbaayi kaastaa buRRa oopukunToo chaeruvaipoataaDaa? adae vishayam ammayiki kooDaa..alaa eduTi abbaayitoa chaeruva kaagaladaa?..ikkaDa taamaashaagaa udaharinchinaa cheppadalchukunna vishayam aenTanTae……oka sambandham annadi iddari vyaktula mutual involvement laekunDaa saadhya paDDam sahajamaina prakriyaa kaadu ani. adi praemaku kooDaa vartistundi. laekapotae….manam choosina renDoa amshamloa balaheenata aerpaDutundi. renDu mooDoa amSaalu interlinked anna vishayaanni manam artham chaesukovaali. adi oka bandham aerpaDDamloa oka sahajamaina prakriyagaa manam gurtinchaali.
ika eduTi vyakti “ valayamloaki” pravaeSinchaDam anTae - eduTi vyakti gurinchi eduTi vyakti aaloachanala gurinchi telusukoavaDam artham chaesukoaDaaniki prayatninchaDam. ee vidhaanam laekunDaa eduTi vyakti valayamloaki pravaeSinchaalani koarukoavaDam duraaSa. duraakramaNa kooDaaa ! ayitae andaroo inta aloachinchi inta calculated gaa unDi praemaloaki
dunkutaaraa? praeminchaalanTae inta calculated gaa unDaalaa? …..samaadhaanam..... “ laedu “.
alaa laenandukae kadaa inni samasyalu !. oka vyakti tanaku sahajangaa kalagaalsina anubhootulaku eppuDaitae viluvistaaDoaa…tana tatvam gurinchi tanaku eppuDaitae oka anchanaa unchi peTTukunTaaDoa…eduTi vyaktini sensible gaa anchanaa vaeyagalaDoa…laedaa artham chaesukoagalaDoa aa vyaktiloa ee process oka calculated process gaa anipinchae samasyae laedu. anTae praeminchaalanTae induloa Srama paDae amSam anipinchadu.
idi chaalaa sahaja dhoraNigaanae anipistundi. alaagae adae koaNamloa choostae love at first sight manaku oka asahaja dhoaraNilaa anipistundi. evarino mukkoo moham teleeni vyaktini choostaenae manam elaa secured gaa feel ayyi mana vyaktigata valayamloaki aahvaanichaalani koarukunTaamu?. either praema anae dharma satram open chaesi anna peTTi unDaali .. vyaktitvam laeni manishanna ayi unDaali…laedaa aakarshaNaku vipareetangaa praadhaanyam ichchae manishannaa ayiUndaali…laedaa manushula paTla chaalaa positive gaa aloachinchae manishai unDaali…laedaa jeevitam paTla seriousness laekunDaa unDaali…laedaa Saareeraka maanasika balaheenata ayinaa unDaali. laedaa implicit assumptions ekkuva chaesae vyakti ainaa unDaaali.
ayitae aa vyakti anchanaalloa…tappulu unDochchu. adi risk factor daanni avoid chaeyaDam brahma daevuDi saadhyam kooDaa kaadu. ayitae saadhaaraNangaa praemaa elaa undaali anae avagaahana ayitae mukhyamae mari. ayitae inta calculated gaa unTae praema fail kaadaa?…ayyae sambhaavana kooDaa undi. intaku mundu anukunnaTTu anchanaalloa loapam kavachchu. laedaa ae vishayam saDalinchaaloaa aa vishayam
saDalinchalaeni vishayam ayyi koorchoavachchu. oka vyakti erigae vidhaanaam valla konni vishayaala prabhaavam valla aakarshaNa urge nu sarigga organise chaesukoalaeka poavaDam kaavachchu. kaabaTTi ee “ praema kaligae “ vidhaanaanni gamanistae ido gradual process gaanae artham avutundi.
adi enta gradual annadi…aayaa vyaktulanu baTTi aayaa vyaktulu perigina vidhaanam baTTi…aayaa saamaajika sandarbhaanni batti vary avutundi. konta mandi vishayamloa adi exponential curve kaavachchu. konta mandi vishayamloa adi linear progression / equation kaavachchu. praema kaligae vidhaanam oka absoluet stage chaerukunae varaku…..balaheena maina links unDanae unTaayi. veeTini dRuDhangaa chaesukunToo poavaDamae praemanu paThishta paruchukoavaDam.
adi enta fast gaa unTundi annadi aa iddari vyaktula madhya unDae oka prajaaswaamika aacharaNa baTTi unTundi.eduTi vaallanu enta varaku gauravistaaru anae anchana meeda unTundi. kaabaTTi praema kaligae kramaanni tappugaa artham chaesukuni…sariggaa anchanaa vaeyaka…ammaayi konta navvutoo maaTlaaDagaanae advance ayyae kuRRoaLLaku raalaka tappadu. alaagae ee praema kaligae vidhaanamloa ennoa weak linksnu uccessfulgaa resolve chaesukunToo vellaali. anduku iddari cooperation anniTiki minchi eduTi vaari paTla oka prajaaswaamika pravartana avasaram.
kaabaTTi peLLi choopula samayam loa laedaa praeminchae mundu...konni vishayaalu manamae mundu nirNayinchukuni oka avagaahana unchukuni interact avvaDam eppaTikainaa
manchidi. mana svabhaavam aenTi? manam daenni saDalinchagalam ? daenni bharincha galam ? daenni assalu bharinchalaem ?...daenni dvaeshistaam ? daenni vipareetangaa aaraadhistaam laedaa gauravistaam ?...ee vishayaalu dRushTiloa peTTukuni eduTi vaallatoa gap tagginchukunToo unDaDam valla oka sahajamaina praemanu marinta paThishTangaa develop chaesukoavaDam veelavutundi.
ledanTae eppuDannaa Tuppukkumanochchu ani intakumunde anukunnaamu. aa risk tappadu.
aedo chinese proverb annaTTu… if you love, it might hurt you…but you have no alternate !! .
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