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Articles: My Thoughts | Human Nature - A Mystery
- Mrs. manjari
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BHASHA – BHAVAM
We meet so many people in our day to day routine. They can be our friends, colleagues, neighbours or our kith and kin. We sometimes talk to a stranger for longer hours and we feel that discussion should never come to an end. May be it is because of mutual understanding or some commonality in views. With others, the talk is just business like and HI and BYE nature. Even if you want to talk, you can not talk to some people, sometimes, because they are just reserved and they generally won’t give a lead to prolong the talk whether it is a nice topic to discuss or not. They are suspicious about themselves and unsure of the other person and they close the doors of their mind and heart, due to unnecessary fear/hesitation. I really get amused sometimes, a person who is really known to you will try to hide himself or herself because they do not want to reveal what they are studying or what they are doing. They could be the same people who will come again to you or who had come to you number of times, if they want to get some useful information from you. Human nature is really complex or people are made like that due to circumstances, It is a mystery to me. Some people are just good listeners and it also sometimes inspires one to talk at length and express their views on some topic or other. It develops good relationships. Sharing of feelings, thoughts and discussing things will definitely help each other to grow in life if people are sincere. It is a win win situation. Nothing to be afraid of.
Some times, we find people who really put others off with their ego or a kind of arrogant nature. In life we come across people, who can not appreciate the beauty even if it can be Miss World or the beautiful picturesque surroundings. For example, you invite some one and put in your full efforts to treat them in your house with pleasure. You may not do that with any expectation. But if that person says “Thank you” the food is great and the antique in the cupboard is really special or anything it gives you an element of pleasure and happiness. It is not necessary that they should flatter you. But what do we lose just by appreciating things?. But we find it unusually with westerners, a kind of appreciating nature whether it is a small or big thing, and we do understand at time, that they are just saying it to make you happy. They have a tendency generally to appreciate even if it is a small thing. We find our own people hesitant in giving good complements. Ok. You do not have to appreciate each and everything. Our heart and mind are not clean enough to openly appreciate what we really feel and know it is praise-worthy in heart of hearts. I see many people criticising actors for their personal affairs and even the beauty of the Miss world Aishwarya is also not a point for them to accept or appreciate her beauty. I think it is generally mental sickness to take out only bad things and feel content from inside. May be it is human jealousy for not having something that the others have. Especially ladies (though I am a woman) I find very reserved when the question of beauty or intelligence is to be noticed in someone, they try to create some negative impressions about the person. I think here we need to grow a lot. Actually beauty lies in the beholders eyes. It is true. We can not expect everyone to appreciate everyone and everything. Then at least, restrain yourself in criticising all the time. What does the other person who is not in any way present there, lose by your remarks? Nothing. Whatever she or he has can not be changed by your thinking. But it is our attitude to be changed. If we always think badly about others, ultimately, that reflects in our face. Then we look the ugliest to others. Sometimes we see beauty in a person who does not have sharp features or physical personality. Because if he or she is having wonderful attitude and personality and that genuineness brings in beauty in their eyes and reflects in face. That is the radiance which gives and adds beauty to a person. They look more attractive with a clean smile on face. So our feelings and negative attitude reflect on our face and that makes the most beautiful person also ugly.
Sometimes, I used to find some housewives who never ever has gone out of their circle of kitchen feel and believe that ladies who are well educated and work in offices do not stick to values or ethics and when they find them talking freely with men, there their suspicion starts and they look down upon them. It was the situation some decades ago. Now things are a bit changed because they find their own siblings growing and adapting to the changed life styles. What I feel is a free and frank person whether it is a lady or gents will not have something else in mind and talk something else and try to give wrong picture. They are fearless and they are true to their conscience. Like there was a myth if a lady is working as a secretary or nurse, people used to associate them with wrong things. These are also pre-conceived notions. Actually those are the professions very ideal for ladies besides teachers profession, because, they need lot of patience and organisational skills. If a person wants to keep their integrity and character, whatever the profession/position is they can always keep it intact. It is not necessary that housewives sitting at home are the just good ones keeping up values. They have more leisure and space to do more wrong things and the world knows it. Again it depends from person to person. We can not generalise and make comments about a particular segment. Basically the filth should be washed from the brains and one has to cleanse their thoughts and thought process. By thinking all the time negative things, we ultimately become victims to those attitudes. Let us always give a chance to ourselves to rethink and make comments. This habit is sometimes with some men too. Not only ladies. They sometimes make comments which will affect the image of a person and in that process they just want to prove that theirs is the only family keeping up values and traditions. Who knows what prompted them to make such comments? A person who is true to himself or herself will not try to show off. So one needs self retrospection before they try to tarnish the image of anyone. Ultimately, good always prevails over bad. Truth always triumphs. So, we should learn to appreciate what is in front of us rather than trying to find out if anything is missing in that person or a thing. Suppose you get one of your friends from India and whole heartedly be with them and show them the beauty of New Zealand and ultimately if that person just says with a smile “ma nuzivide bagundi. Mee new Zealand kante” annaru anukondi. How do you feel for all the efforts you have put in sponsoring and spending time with that person. But it is very typical of people. Inside themselves they feel great that they got such a good friend and wonderful opportunity. But to appreciate and say thanks, they feel that they are parting with millions of dollars. It is mean ego.
In fact, by saying some good words and showing our appreciation, we are giving happiness to the other person. It is just a reciprocative feeling. It is better always not to hurt others feeling by sarcastic remarks or trying to pull down others. In short we should develop positive attitude in life and try to make the environment around us energised. To appreciate a person, his work or his attitude or his home or his children will not belittle us. It will enhance respect and good feelings in others. I find some people still have those notions like a person belonging to a particular area or to their own district is always the best and others are just cheaters or stupids etc. Even when we cross our country and come to another country we act so small. It is pathetic. High ego and unnecessarily feeling proud of ourselves, our families and our children and throwing comments on others will prove one day fatal and children will grow with that attitude only and a day comes, children will teach lesson to parents with the same attitude. Like it is ball hitting the wall and coming back to you and striking your head. But it will be too late. So, let us all cultivate healthy thinking and healthy expression when we interact with others. Sweet words leave good memories and soar comments create bad environment. So it is not wrong to say that we should polish ourselves in expressing our feelings in Proper language and with apt expression as per the situation demands.
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