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Articles: My Thoughts | Why Gossip?
- Mrs. manjari
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As we grow from childhood to adulthood our habits, behaviour, attitude sometimes changes with experience to better and broader perspective of life with our education, exposure and the environment we live in. To some people it may not because they do not want to change as they think that they are perfect and there is nothing to learn even if the whole world sees them as a frog in the well.
Why I am saying this is at times, we come across people who waste time with rumours, scandals and chitchat with a big mouth and trying to spoil relationships or friendships with their big mouth which is just a gossip mongers job. This job is a very complex job which is beyond the horizons of a normal educated or a highly elevated soul. Because it involves so much effort (crooked) to create a story and then spotting people who can easily believe such stories or finding like minded people who enjoys such rumors at the expense of others who are far beyond and who may not come to know till a certain period of time. But why people do this? It is because they are insecure, frustrated or jealous at others. So Idle man's brain is devil's work shop.
So, those who are mentally sick do these things to hurt others or to spoil other's peace. If you are a victim of this gossip best thing is 'Do not react'. Just keep quiet. I will here cite a small example. This happened a decade ago. I have a best friend and colleague who was an architect and earning a very good salary in a reputed organization. One of her batch mates, a crooked boy started writing love letters to her and she blasted him. You know what he did. He went to known and unknown people and spread stories and a rumor that he is getting married to that girl. He also went to extremes so that this girl will yield to his pressure tactics. But she took him to task and she exercised patience and did not show tension at what he was doing and finally succeeded in giving him back his due.
The same way, we should deal with any unexpected events, situations or the effects of Big Mouths with our will power, tolerance and with poise. Otherwise, if we get tensed up and react, our positive energies will diminish in no time and we also lose reasoning power. Once a few years back a close auntie of mine who used to be happy all the time was very upset when she came back from a trip to her own family after two years. When I asked her `Auntie, You should look fresh and happy after your trip. Why are you looking sick?' She said `I am so confused and upset to see my own people and I am really unhappy. When I go there, everyone talks ill of others in their absence and I also realized that all of them talk very bad things about me. Since I am far away from them at times, I become target of things which I did not say and they all become one in putting the blame on me. I go from here spending so much money to see all of them and expect a refreshing atmosphere all the time but I am disappointed most of the time'.
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