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Labour Pains and Men
- Ms. Prasanthi Uppalapati

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Quite Surprised. Aren't you? I will explain. Some of our friends(All are girls) were gathered in a friend's house who is pregnant at that time. After chatting about everyone of us, our interest was driven to Pregnancy. We enquired about how she is feeling now. She said she is Ok. Then one by one we began to express our views. My friend who is pregnant wished that God should make a plan such that both the couple must bear the suffering so that there will be justice to both of them. Her view is : The couple must be interchanged with their sex in the consecutive births. What she means is If one is female in this birth, her husband should be wife in the next birth and viceversa. Another one's view: Why only woman should be pregnant? Why can't it be Men? How good it will be if God transfers this responsibility to Men? Another girl, (She is somewhat moderate in her feeling) Carrying is Ok. But Labour Pain should be experienced by Men. Then only they can understand the real suffering. Another girl, (she is so kind) everything is ok. We Carry, We bear the Labour pains, but I wish I will be given the choice of the time of conceiving. My ideas must be given the necessary consideration. I didn't express any opinion there but laughed a lot at each and every suggestion. I just get an image of the girls who are deeply discussing of designing a master plan of coup against Men. Whole day I was thinking and laughed and laughed about the views expressed. I am a girl who fears a Doctor and easily get afraid at the thought of Injection and hospital environment. I always fear when anyone develop big stomach while they carry(pregnant). I wonder how world's population especially India's population growing at a considerable rate when deliverying is such a painful one. I used to get startled when I see anyone who carry once every two years and giving birth to 3 or more children. But when I question myself that how many of these women were really conceiving according to their wishes? And also in the cases of Abortions,when they came to know that the baby will be a girl. And another one is the Cases of Infertility and also some health disorders. In my Mother's case only, I was the third among the children but the first one to survive. I am a Caesarian Baby. Two of my own aunts were suffered terribly. My Younger Aunt's first pregnancy lead to abortion. The Lady Doctor who cleaned my aunt's womb after abortion did a mistake and a Block was formed in the Fallopean tubes of my aunt. She has undergone two major operations. She is now having two children. Both are Caesarian kids. But she can give birth only after 9 years of her marriage. In the mean time, she suffered physically and mentally a lot. Another aunt also suffered a lot as her Vagina is very big that the embryo emerges out always and she has 3 abortions. What I want to emphasize is though the husbands were caring and understanding people, my mother and aunts were suffered physically a lot I mean while checkups and medication. I feel many women. What I mean to say is Women are being forced (it may be personal one being women or by their husbands and society) to give birth at any cost. Otherwise they have a fear that their husbands might marry another woman.(It is not the issue with my father or with my Uncles. They will never do that). When I was small, I mean at the age of 10 or so, I used to think that , we should bear that suffering and we shouldn't feel it as a suffering, because women only can deliver and how wonderful it is that someone is shaping in our womb. But later as I grew and when I personally observed my aunt rounding the hospitals every now and then, I used to think that I shouldn't suffer like that at any cost. I made a firm decision that I should make my proposed husband sign an agreement that he will not make me round the hospitals if I found to be infertile or cannot deliver in a normal manner. And also he should promise that he will not marry another woman and leave me under these grounds.If he agrees only I will marry otherwise I will not. My Opinion is : Women must be given the freedom to conceive, and also the freedom to be pregnant according to their wish and will, and also Men should value her opinion whether to keep a pregnancy or abort. Because: Women are those who has to suffer physically and so they should be prepared mentally. Men cannot experience the Labour Pains. P.S.: If God grants a boon that Men should feel the pain of their child's birth, it will help women a lot. There will be no need of DNA tests and men cannot escape from law and they cannot do anything illegal. It will be a good blow on their male ego that no one can trace their misdoings.