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Articles: My Thoughts | 8 AvarOdhAlu
- Muralikrishna Midadala
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5. I often feel unsure when I’m doing something new
This statement sounds negative. Isn’t it bad to feel unsure? But actually, this is a positive strategy, because it’s no good feeling falsely confident. With something new, feeling unconfident is your mind’s way of alerting you to your lack of experience.
You can solve this problem by gaining the relevant experience (or at least, as much as you can). So with anything new – that speech, those interview questions, that new skill – get background information and practice ahead of time. Rehearsal will raise your performance and, in turn, raise your confidence.
6. I worry that other people will laugh or disapprove of me
The secret here is that almost everyone feels like you do. Which means that while you’re busy wondering what other people think of you, they’re busy wondering what you think of them.
Work with that. Help other people feel better: approach them, be friendly, ask questions, compliment them. Then, not only will they like you, you’ll also be too busy concentrating on them to worry about yourself.
7. I’m confident in some areas, but I feel unsure in others
If there’s one thing you can do with confidence, it’s being able to transfer it across to ‘nervous’ areas.
So when you’re facing a new situation, imagine it’s one you’re familiar with. When you meet people you don’t know, imagine they are people you know and like. If you know you can be self-assured about some things, you can imagine being self-assured about everything.
8. If something feels too big for me, I just collapse under the weight
What’s the best way to eat an elephant? One bite at a time. The moral here is it’s usually easier to do things in small chunks. So break down a project into smaller goals. Or try a ‘practice run’ and then build up from there.
There is an exception to this ‘one bite at a time’ approach. Sometimes, doing the outrageously risky can boost your confidence – because it makes everything else seems easy.
A final tip
All these routes to confidence involve you alone. But other people can help, too. So find a mentor – someone who is confident in the area you’re not. Hang out and learn from their knowledge, their experience. They’ll be flattered and you’ll gain useful tips.
Stop worrying, start living
muraLIkRuShNa miDadAla
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