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Articles: My Thoughts | Jealousy and Insecurity
- Ms. kiran A
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Don't Deny Jealousy, Deal with It. Okay, let's say you've found that you are jealous. It's not going to be easy, but what can you do to solve it?
One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to try and hide it (in the long term, that doesn't mean you have to display it at the moment you feel it.) Jealousy is usually a signal of something needing fixing, and ignoring that usually only makes things worse.
Instead,I would suggest asking yourself 'What do I feel insecure about?' Do I feel unattractive or uninteresting myself? Do I doubt the other persons love for me? Their physical attraction? Do I doubt that I can have the type of relationship I want?
Once you've figured out what the core discomfort is, then it's appropriate to ask yourself if your fears are well-founded. If it is, perhaps talking to your partner,friend about what you are afraid of and why you believe your fears are well-founded makes sense.
A different case is where you are pretty sure that your fears are unwarranted, but you just feel insecure (often about yourself more than the relationship) .Try to feel secure make it a habbit , it will certainly help.
Before looking at ways to cope with jealousy, let's try to understand its causes better.overwhelming dread and pain of rejection originates in childhood when we discover that we are not Mommy or Daddy's favorite (Daddy or Mommy is).It happenes when one is rejected by their lover. Of course, this insecurity is unconscious.Insecurity at any level triggers Jealousy, So now that we understand few of our insecuties are main cause for jealosuy ,what can be done about jealousy? the best protection against jealousy is a good relationship, i.e. prevention is better than a cure.If the love can be kept alive and exciting, that is much more effective than trying to revive a threatened love.
Bestway is to controlling their emotions and becoming even more committed to and attentive to the loved one.A Second method is 'selective ignoring ,' i.e. telling themselves that the desired object (the lover or some achievement) was just not that important. A third method, telling themselves their good qualities and doing something nice for themselves, was not helpful in this case.
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