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Articles: My Thoughts | In the name of Love
- Ms. kiran A
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When told that the 'love of my life' had 'found' a new 'well-to-do' guy a week after the break-up, he was devastated. He cried.He felt that his life no longer had meaning.
He tried to date but was so hurt and bitter that he ran the other women away with stories about his past girl-friend and the wonderful times they shared.
Denial
For those devastated by lost love, the immediate hurt can be excruciating. For many people, recovering from a painful divorce or break-up is the most exasperating challenge of a lifetime. The loss of love is beyond anything they had ever imagined, expected or predicted. There is a feeling of hopelessness and desolation, and the inevitable depression takes down even the heartiest of spirits
When you first hear the news you may feel numb or shocked. This is because you do not yet understand what has happened to you and your life around you. You mind is unable to process this information correctly. One minute the two of you are a hot item, the next minute your friends or nothing at all. Its pretty hard to process and pretty hard to stomach on matter which angle you look at it.
The disbelief stage can last anywhere from half a minute to a whole lifetime. Some individuals simply refuse to believe what has happened knowing that if they accept the situation they fear that they may never recover. Don't let this mistake happen to you. Your objective and ultimate goal is to accept your fate and move on to other endeavors. Being deniad is not the end of the world, so try to think through your irrational first instincts and what has happened as quickly as possible so you can begin the healing process
Anger
anger is a healthy outlet for all those negative emotions welling up inside of you. If you want to tell you ex how you feel, go ahead and do it because you really have nothing to lose. If you feel jaded, speak your mind and let them deal with the fallout.
Another way of dealing with your anger is to maybe write a poem or even draw a picture expressing your anguish. Feel free to write a long letter to your ex, being sure to hurtfully pick apart all of their insecurities, and then burn or destroy it. Basically, do everything necessary to keep yourself from acting on any immature, inappropriate impulses towards aggression. Losing control over you actions may feel wonderful for a couple of seconds, but it will only make you feel worse afterwards.
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