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General Forum: Current 'Affairs' | | Andhra girls are cool about dowry! - (A column from Times of India) | |
| Hi The girl,
What you said is perfectly acceptable truth. If every girl think like this and become strong enough there will be no problems.. Hope for this change in society.. infact we are observing a lot of change in educated families nowadays.. hope every body think in this way...
nice posting
bye
bose
Posted by: Mr. Bosu Avunoori At: 19, Jul 2003 11:01:37 AM IST
cool...
Posted by: Mr. M.S.Reddy At: 17, Jul 2003 1:36:51 PM IST
ahaaa..entha swardham Miss ....
meremoo ur hubby yokka economic status choostharu....at the same tiem if he also looks for that danikemo social evil ani peru petti nana hamgama chesthara......
Posted by: Mr. M.S.Reddy At: 17, Jul 2003 12:44:52 PM IST
ayipoyavu THE GIRl....
READY GA VUNDU INAK NE PAI DONDORA MODALAVUTUNDI)........
But your views are good.....
Posted by: Mr. M.S.Reddy At: 17, Jul 2003 12:42:15 PM IST
hi everybody,
well I haven't gone through the whole of the tread, but let me express one thing over here. THis is a girl's perspective.
I think I support the system of a lady taking money/property from their parents. what ever you call it... Dowry or women's right of equal share of her ancestral property.
Lets look at some facts before going to the point..
1) no girl is going to marry a person whose economic status is less that what she was brought up with. Obviously, money is important even for people who cannot be termed as materialistic people. Look a person brought up in normal surroundings cant go and live in a slum area, just because the husband is handsome and loving. Not me atleast!!!
Dont you think that its logical for a man to expect that her wife brings some money the way he brings!!!! I know there are objuctions raised telling, its a man's responsibility to ear money and not of women's. But do you think thats the case right now??? isn't there a responsibility on the part of woman to earn money?? is it possible to lead a decent life for a middle class family with one person earning and the whole family living on that??
yes!! thinsg are changing and that must be realised by women...therez an extra burden on them now! and that can be worked out if the attitude of people that "men are for earning and women are for cooking changes".
so if a lady cant earn money by herself she will get it from her dad.. and its her right to get an equal share. THere is nothing wrong about it.
Its not practical to expect that the society will give freedom to women with out the responsibilities.
yes!! one thing is true... its inhumane to torture a girl to bring money every then and now!! I agree!! Its also sad to see if only money is the parameter that is looked when people get married!! its a personal choice!!
anywya, if there is evil in this dowry system, that evil is not "Guys expecting money for the girls" but its "harrasment a girl go through for the money" ... again, its the responsibility of the girl to come out of it..
the solution is not to telling lets not take dowry.. the solution lies in making the girl stronger.. strong enough to handle her things by herself.. we see lots of girls who fear everythign... it could be so simple as finding some info for something, or getting to a new place all by themselves given address, or just anything.. the parents must see that right from her childhood their daughter does all her work by herself.. no brothers and fathers helping her. I dont think we need hifi education to be economically independent. Its just the way the girl choose to be. Girls must come out of these housewife job and take more responsibilities.
Everything lies in the capability of the girl. and the solution lies only in making the girl stronger. THerz nothing wrong in expecting property from a girl. after all thats how things are....
Finally, I know this will raise a lot of questions.. but :)
The Girl.
Posted by: Miss The Girl At: 17, Jul 2003 12:20:16 PM IST
The word "Empowering" is very frequently heard after the visit of Mr. Bill Clinton & Mr. Bill Gates to India. How this word is understood in India & USA ? Now we are in Veg. masala. Divorce rate has increased in the world where the other world is entirely different to India.Moreover mass media is just an image to the existing soceity. The literacy rate is very low when compared to China. Further the unemployed women spend hours with cinema entertainment / TV.
Posted by: Mr. M Kumar N At: 16, Jul 2003 5:01:26 PM IST
Men should not degrade themselves with the hunger for dowry.. Taking dowry is just selling our-self.
Posted by: Mr. Ajit Paritala At: 16, Jul 2003 1:19:21 AM IST
Guys!!! Stop giving this topic a personal look.
Posted by: (^ ^) BOOCHODU At: 15, Jul 2003 11:13:47 PM IST
Sunitha! vinadaniki mee quote chala bagundi.
//excuses vetikevalaki veyyi untayi. cheyaladalchukuna valu entha kastam aina chestaru//
Kaani acharanalo petti choodandi.
Btw, nenu naa "kashtalani" cheppindi, idi andari kashtam ani kaadu. andariki vachche kashtallo idi okati ani cheppadaniki. meeru katnam ivvakoodadu ani entha anukunna, katnam lekunda chesukune vaadu dorakali kada.. oka vela dorikina aa abbayi meeku nachchali kada?? ila ani nenu mimmalni discourage cheyyatledu. I wish you all the best...
Posted by: Mr. Spider Man At: 15, Jul 2003 9:31:26 PM IST
Set aside all love marriages....
All parents want their sons/daughters to be married to a good boy/girl from a good comfortable family.
If we take the case of a girl..their parents think their girl should be happy so let her be married to a boy from well to do family(includes economically).
If we think from the boy's side...their parents too want to have their son to be married to a girl from a good family background(includes economically).
Since girls' parents are more desperate(probably age factor and social pressure), the demand for the boy increases. Moreover in order to show that they are well off, they try to lure him with higher bids of dowry than their competitors.
For boy's parents..its easy choice to make now...
This is a rule in any deal. We CANNOT break this in totality.
This also arms the girl's father to get better groom.
Property Share=Dowry.
Earlier there was no property share..so it was called dowry.
Now dowry is eradicated (legally) so there is property share(legally).
We see not many parents are willing to give their girl's worth of property share to the girl.(They avoid it by giving lesser dowry).
Let all boys in this discussion not take dowry.
Let all girls in this discussion make sure that they get their share of property.
Posted by: (^ ^) BOOCHODU At: 15, Jul 2003 8:17:55 PM IST
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