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General Forum: Love | | Arranged Marriage or True Love | |
| both have pros and cons.but marriage itself is a trap .every body know its a trap and want to go into it.like going inside a cage and lock urself and realized that inside a lion is sleeping.when it wakes makes ur life miserable.so guys and girl whether is a love are arranged both are same after marriage.becareful my friends.
with luv,(love+arranged)
sreeni
Posted by: Mr. M.S.Reddy At: 19, Aug 2001 1:16:35 PM IST
The choice between love marriage and arranged marriage is to be made by analysing ones personality. Its the person's attitude which makes any of the "kind of marriage" sucessful.
People who belive in "the relationship (the husband and wife relationship)" than the person, can go for arranged marriages. For them its the choice between "belief in relationship (formed for around 25 years)" vs "belief in a person known for a max of 5 years". I think that most of us come under this category...........we all belive in the "custom marriage" (thats how we are brought up) :-).Thats takes care of everything; irrespective of the personality /faults / or any other "trivial" things.. of *his*/*her*. after all we love our brothers and sisters more because we are taught to respect/love that relationship and not because we cant ever find more intresting people than our own blood relationship.
All I want to say in the above para is -- in general the probability of arranged marriage to fail is very less taking the present minds of all of us into consideration. the very obvious question is, what if it really happens to fail? :-) even then there are lots of people to help. Two big families with their support.(an arranged marriage's strongest plus point --- support). Ofcourse, this will be very important for those who feel they need others help. (again I assume here that atleast 98% of us really need support)
offfff!! I have been talking a lot about arranged marriages. Love marriages will work for him/her who can choose a "perfect match " for themselves, which can never go wrong -- which is better than the choice made by the family members, all minds put together. And for those who can tackle things themselves if at all it fails :)
So whats conclusion ? :-) Know yourself better and then go for any of the marriages. Afterall everything works !!! For students there are lots of things which demand the attention(atleast now) than searching for a "life patner" :-) (just my opinion)
Posted by: Ms Samatha G At: 12, Aug 2001 12:43:40 PM IST
Arranged is great .
Posted by: Mr kavalisureshbabu babu At: 1, Aug 2001 8:55:06 PM IST
arranged
Posted by: Mr vasu choudary At: 31, Jul 2001 4:14:07 PM IST
Love is like a dining room ( everything is served...no noise...no disturbances..and no obligations) Marriage is like a Kitchen....a real life...food preparation amidst many noises..disturbances..etc., Only those responsible lovers who presume the responsibility of kitchen gets into marriage and the rest will get away from the 'love' after the show is finished.
Posted by: Syam Sundara Rao Vadlamani At: 28, Jul 2001 2:21:25 AM IST
Arranged marriages check the 'hardware' compatibility and whereas the Love marriages also check the 'software' compatibility.
Syam,
Posted by: Syam Sundara Rao Vadlamani At: 28, Jul 2001 2:08:38 AM IST
Arranged marriages check the 'hardware' compatibility and whereas the Love marriages also check the 'software' compatibility.
Syam,
Posted by: Syam Sundara Rao Vadlamani At: 28, Jul 2001 2:08:28 AM IST
Very True. They can and they are co existing.
I donot agree with the concept of 'True' Love.If there is Love,That should be TRUE in all means ... like 100% love.If its not ..it cant be love.
Indian society has been a closed society all
For a 'Bhola/bholi' (who had not got a chance to *flirt* - which is most of young gals/guys do these days) will marry a nice girl/guy and discovers he/she has got the Best thing in life and they move close .. they ultimately fall in love and life goes on ..
Posted by: Mr Manohar Chitra At: 28, Feb 2001 12:28:39 PM IST
why the differentiation between arranged marriage and true love, can they not coexist together?
Posted by: Ms Lakshmi -- At: 28, Feb 2001 8:42:03 AM IST
In Love you need to find the right person.
'Dil pein math le' dialogue from Hyderbad blues is a hint for all the young hearts out there.
gone are the days where people use to fall in love .. It rarely happens ..
Now, You see a girl/boy find her profession then *think* of loving him/her!Thats not the way .. love suppose to grow.
and I feel .. Love needs commitment and Seriousness and Arranged marriage brings 'em both ,Ultimately you will fall in love and live happily ever after.
Posted by: Mr Manohar Chitra At: 28, Feb 2001 7:49:25 AM IST
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