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General Forum: Love | | What is unconditional love? | |
| May I respectfully suggest that..
Mother's love can be ( and mostly)out of attachment. That which is mine.. my child..there is an ego factor there.
If it is true love it is extended to all children (and all things) in the world.
Posted by: Mr. see nu At: 26, Feb 2010 10:58:24 AM IST
Not sure if someone said it earlier here in this thread, but I always feel that mother's love towards child is unconditional, always unconditional.
Someone may still debate, that mother loves the child with the view that the child will take care of mother at her old age. But I personally feel that, the view of taking care at old age is really nothing to do with mother's love.
Posted by: Bahud♥♥rapu Baatasaari At: 26, Feb 2010 0:33:17 AM IST
Love that is not mentally 'conditioned' - that is to say 'Love that does not know boundaries, love wherein there is no place for fissiparous and petty considerations, love which knows only giving but not demanding' and so on..
Love "out of which the mind is without fear and the head is held high due to knowledge that comes out is freely" and so on...
Posted by: SATYA RAMA PRASAD KALLURI At: 25, Feb 2010 3:38:40 PM IST
When you love everyone, then you are free. Love is freedom !
Posted by: Mr. see nu At: 23, Feb 2010 0:10:16 AM IST
hmmmm beautiful topic. I didn't read all the pages here but I would like to add a little...
Love is unconditional. Period. If there is any conditionality attached it is not love. So if we love someone because they are good looking or well behaved or because we have something in return from them, it is business, not love.
We should be able to love everyone irrespective of whatever. That is the nature of love. I am not trying to be naive or idealistic. This is what love is. When you love someone unconditionally, you will love everyone with the same degree. If love takes place because the object is a son daughter sibling spouse good looking girl it is not love but it is attachment. All attachments lead to pain. All desires cause pain. But when you love without any expectations or returns, there is nothing that can diminish the degree of love.
If you can love killers of Vaishnavi with the same non attachment / attachment as much as you love your family members / sweethearts, then you know what I am talking about...
When I feel such universal love for everyone I feel so peaceful and happy... aaaahhhhhh the release from the pain of showing our superiority , the needlessness of feeling jealous or inferioro to others, liberation from anger as there is one that you need to dominate / disagree with as it is only their views but not themselves that you are angry with. Such a beautiful feeling..
I LOVE YOU ALL !
Respectfully...
seenu
Posted by: Mr. see nu At: 9, Feb 2010 9:15:44 AM IST
Causeless love is the ultimate
Whenever we look at something, our first reaction is to calculate what we can get from it. Whether it is a person or an object does not matter. Our thoughts start functioning either through fear or through greed to calculate what is the benefit in the situation for us. Our attention is centred on that object or person. It is possible to turn our attention towards our own inner space and ask, 'What can I contribute?' 'What can I add? ‘How can I enrich others?'
If the process is only to ask, 'What can I get out of it?,' then it is driven by lust. If the process asks, 'How can I enrich it?,' it is driven by love!
Lust is an energy that demands. Love is an energy that gives. Love is an intense experience in one's inner space. Many of us perceive love as a choice. We believe experience and expression of love is a choice. We assume that if we want to, we can handle love; other-wise we can let it go.
No! It is not a choice as we think. It is a basic necessity of life. Causeless love means being alive at the innermost being level, as a live Consciousness. If you can express love, if you can experience love, that is the only way of being alive as a Consciousness. If you do not experience and express love, you might inhale and exhale, but you cannot pronounce that you are a live being.
Causeless love can never be made to happen with just our logical decisions. Our mental setup itself should be created in such a manner that we become love and our actions articulate love. Our logic should start radiating a love which is beyond logic! When genuine love happens in us, we will not even be aware that we have become loving.
All human beings are born as loving beings. Newborn babies radiate causeless love. Do they recognise anyone around them at birth? No! Their energy is causeless love. But as we grow, society instills fear and greed in us and we orient our love based on greed and fear. Then it is no longer causeless love. It is love with a reason. We start feeling other emotions like jealousy and anger. But with a little awareness and awakening, it is possible to reclaim our original love.
Love is the ultimate experience of a human being. When the experience happens, we will not be able to possess the experience, only the experience will possess us! Whatever we do will be like a beautiful song. Our body language will radiate grace. All our expressions will be of great service to humanity.
Posted by: Mr. Siri Siri At: 8, Feb 2010 9:17:32 AM IST
Love the work
Love the people sorround you
Love the nature side by you
Love the help less creature sorround you
Love the Boss whom you provide you the job
Love the country one which gave you shelter
Love the parents whom you gave the birth
Love the children on which your hope depends
Love the mother land on which you born
Love the friends those who mould your future
Finally love the god for your existence in this wonderful world
Posted by: Mr. Bhaskar At: 1, Aug 2005 11:24:06 PM IST
Prashanti, reading that was like reaching enlightenment. Thank you.
Posted by: Sidda Lee C At: 23, Jun 2005 11:34:19 AM IST
Taken from
http://shirdi-sai-baba.com/forum/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=6705
Unconditional Love is the Answer
There was a time in my life I became afraid to love. Because all those times I fell in love, I got hurt. I thought maybe that's why it's called "falling" in love.
I would give my all, loving deeply and wholeheartedly. It would be a truly emotional, extremely euphoric experience. I would dream about the object of my affection all day and all night, imagining good times together, thinking of what I can do or give him to show how much I cared. I would feel light as a feather, energized and excited, literally blooming with the joy I felt inside. Then somehow something would go wrong and my whole world would crash. Disappointment. Resentment. Anger. Pain.
Why? Can we not love without pain? Is disappointment really a price to pay for all the happiness we feel when we're in love? Should we blindly accept that because we love we get hurt?
It was only after many years of soul-searching and internalizing inspirational writings that I discovered that I can love without getting hurt. I finally understood that unconditional love was the answer.
Love is one of the most powerful forces in the universe. It is the fire that burns inside, the essence of being. Love is the source of all our comfort and contentment. It is a precious gift that defines our purpose in life. If we keep in mind that we can indeed preserve its true meaning, we can love to the fullest and be happy the rest of our lives.
Accept that people express love in different ways.
How do YOU express your love? You say "I love you" three times a day, you kiss and embrace him every chance you get, you never forget your anniversaries, and you always prepare his favorite dishes. How does HE express his love? He rarely says "I love you", he seldom kisses you, he forgets your birthday, and he doesn't even try to cook. But he works overtime, walks the dog, helps you with the laundry, takes you to the movies, and calls you "Honey". He probably loves you as much as you love him, he just shows it differently. If you can accept that difference then you can have a healthier perspective of your relationship.
Derive happiness from giving love.
When you love, do it because you want to. There is indescribable joy in loving. Just give it. And cherish the satisfaction in having given someone something of yourself. It's like giving a gift. Whether it is appreciated or not, find joy in simply giving.
Love without expecting anything in return.
Now this is where pain comes in: when you demand something in return for the love you give. You are actually setting yourself up for disappointment because love cannot always be reciprocal. Love between two people can never be of the same intensity at the same time and place. No matter how much your partner loves you, she will never be able to fill all your needs all the time. And you are worst off if you believe you should love only when you are sure to receive equal love in return. Sad to say, you will be waiting in misery forever.
Love now.
The past is gone and the future is just a dream. All of yesterday's aches and pains, even the joys and laughter, are mere memories. Let them go. And your fantasies and worries? They may never come. So why dwell on them? Live now. Give love now. Do it now and enjoy the moment. That is the secret of inner contentment.
Throw away those destructive habits.
When you insist upon yourself that you always have to be in control, that you always have to be right, that others must always please you, you mold unreasonable expectations of yourself and the ones you love. Loving relationships are flexible, dynamic, and evolving. Give room for change and interaction. Allow for new behavior and learning experiences. When we welcome these into our lives, we open ourselves up to love and affection rather than anger and frustration.
Yes, you will say that unconditional love is easier said than done. Especially when we have always believed that love is give and take. Try believing that love is simply giving. They say “Give until it hurts”. Let’s say “Love until it hurts no more”.
Posted by: Ms. Prasanthi Uppalapati At: 23, Jun 2005 10:13:46 AM IST
Good one Sidda
Posted by: Malakpet Rowdy At: 22, Jun 2005 1:31:38 PM IST
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