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General Forum: Current 'Affairs' | | spandinchanDi....spandana avasaramu.... | |
| I understand that my statements can lead to more than one conclusion, Kiran! I am not against for reserving seats in buses/univs/jobs. I'm against to those ladies who claim that they are equal to men and yet demand for reservations. Please note it. At the same time, I'm against Mr VeVa's rechchipOyi tiragabaDanDi kind of thoughts, not at women who are being suppressed & become victims to (some) many narrow-minded men in our society.
My statement "women need to change" is perfectly justifiable. Because women are strong at heart and they have lot of patience than men, they can sustain little pain and bring change in their own men to treat them respectfully. I have no hesitations in quoting an example of myself. I too have male egotism. My thoughts were also used to reflect the purushAdhikyam . But due to my wife's patience and her constant love, affection and caring, I started respecting her and my whole behaviour & thoughts changed to the great extent since we were married. So, I feel that women can bring change in men. If men change by themselves, it is well and fine. It is more welcome. But, due to so many reasons, if men can't change by themselves, instead of blaming them, I suggest to those women to bring change in their men. One and one will make many.
Yes, Salman Khan's dress code brought distraction in women(in few women, if not all). And again, the weaker mind of men plays a big role here. When mind becomes weak, body grains streangth. oka balahIna kshaNAna oka balavantuDu oka strI eDala atyAchAram gAvinchagalaDu. adE magADu mAnasikangA balavantuDaitE, tanalOni tappuDu AlOchanani tokkipeTTagalaDu I'm not saying that men have bigger hearts not to fondle with women in bus, but people like you and me will certainly NOT do so, right? Some people may do, but for how long? If that woman revolts, what would be his situation? She can always protect her in crowd. Right?
There is nothing wrong in having a genuine concern for women's cause. But that cause should be genuine. There is no point in hanging around with a problem/issue that is dying or which is of lesser impact. Dowry is not a very serious issue. It is getting weaker now a days. Some issues like women going for abroad alliances and getting ditched by men... or woman falling into the traps of men... some thing of that sort, which can be warned and where awareness can be brought. These are more serious issues. amerikA peLLikoDukulE kAvAli, vALLanE peLLi chEsukunTAmu anTU, vADelAnTivADO, vADi bAgOtamEnTO chUDakunDA tALi kaTTinchukuni mOsapOyE abhAginulaki mana Andhra dESamlO kodava lEdu. alAgE, vidESAllO udyOgAla pEriTa mOsapOyE sOdarulentamandO! vILLani chaitanya paristE konni kuTumbAlu bAgunTAyi kadA? kEvalam kaTnam ivvaddu, moguLLapai mogALLapai tiragabaDanDi anTU upanyasistE prayOjanam pondE sekTar paradhi chinnadi ani nA abhiprAyamu.
Its not a master & slave concept. Its all because male egotism. You and me cannot wipe off that feeling in men overnight, Saleem! Its in our genes. Just simply accept the truth that women belong to weaker sector. And they will remain as weaker sector for some more time. We just can't change it by screaming tiragabaDanDi, koTTanDi, champanDi .
And I always feel a wife & husband is one. If they work like one, it will be a happy family. If any one of them feel that they are two and one needs "equal" rights, the clash starts.
Posted by: Bahud♥♥rapu Baatasaari At: 16, Apr 2004 2:13:47 PM IST
salaam kiraN bhaay
Posted by: Saleem At: 16, Apr 2004 12:59:06 PM IST
It is like a master asking a slave "Why you struggle and spoil the peace"?
Posted by: Saleem At: 16, Apr 2004 11:01:28 AM IST
Mr VeVa & Mrs Anupama,
My apologies to both of your, in the front line itself.
Education... will that really eradicate the evils? Yes, it certainly does, drive away the evils of dowry, in-equality etc. At the same time, it brings some other evils.
I strongly object Mr VeVa's comments on our culture. We the people of India, don't "claim" that we have a great culture. It is the fact. We don't need to "claim". Can you please define the word "culture"? What do you really mean by "culture"? Culture is not that the woman or a young girl cut her hair, dress up like a man, remove "bindi", never wear bangles, roam around the streets on a bike with a tiny skirt & lowest possible necked T-shirt through which we can see more than 50% of her tops, provoke and distract fellow men's mind and sight. Culture is not that the women come on to streets fighting for equal rights. As a matter of fact, women are nevel equal. They are physically weaker sex, though mentally very strong. We can't say that they are physically strong just because of their ability to stand for longer time than men(thats the streangth given by mother nature to carry the baby when women are pregnant). Just because they are weaker sex, they want reservations. By asking for reservations, they prove & admit that they are NOT EQUAL to men. In our society, women need to chage, not men. If women change their attitude, there comes the change in men automatically. Why does women need reservations in the buses? Because they cannot(or do not want to) sit besides men. As long as they try to get away from men, they attract men. mUsi unchina piDikiTlO guTTu unTundi. Why does women need reservations in college admissions, when they can study better than men? Why does they need reservations in jobs, when they can prove their ability in the studies?
Coming to dowry issue, it is not that big issue now a days. It is coming down. I have already told you several times, Mr VeVa, don't expect the change overnight. Yes, change is coming... its very gradual. I myself personally seen several of my friends are not that much interested in the dowry part now a days. They(including me) wanted a well educated decent girl with good manners and well behaviour who can respect his parents and drive the family to happy shore. Educations will really reduce this dowry evil. At the same time, vidya osagu vinayambu is being ruled out. These now-a-day's modern women wants to be away from their in-laws, just because they are gaining financial independancy. They don't want (always) listen to their husbands... leading to argument and hurt man's ego. Thus, leading to clashes and thus spoiling the harmony of family. Is it not? Don't ask this question to youself Mrs Anupama! Look at the Indian society and answer it to yourself.
So, most of your arguments are nothing but kanTha SOsha Mr VeVa. They are not really genuine.
Posted by: Bahud♥♥rapu Baatasaari At: 16, Apr 2004 10:46:36 AM IST
hAy akkA! oka mail koTTanDi
Posted by: Bahud♥♥rapu Baatasaari At: 16, Apr 2004 9:42:25 AM IST
well said anu...
ee araachakaalanniTikee kaaraNamu chaduvu lEkapovaDamu...manamu mundu adi daaTa galigitE anni samasyalanu yedurukovachchu...mahiLala pai araachakala nunDi kulamataala raajakeeyaala varaku...kaabaTTi mundu chaduvu kosamu oka viplavamu puDitE kaani ivanni aagavu ee manTalu challaaravu...prati raashTramulO vanda Saatamu chaduvukunna vaallu unnappuDu accaDa araachakaalu baagaa taggutaayani naa nammakamu...okokka vyakti samasta Sakti daara pOsi krushi chEyalani oka kavi annaTTu manamandaramu kalasi idi saadinchina naaDu mana dESamu nijangaanE veligipotundi...
Posted by: Mrs. Sneha sarma At: 15, Apr 2004 6:15:00 PM IST
idi nA spamdana
bAgumdamDi vE.vA gAru.
amdarU AlAmTi jIvitAla veipE moggu chUputunnamta kAlam manamEm chEyagalam.
mIru vrAsimdi evarU kAdanaru kAdanalEru
mArchaDAniki sAhasimchE vALLE kAvali ippuDu.
LET US HOPE FOR THE BEST
Posted by: ★Vinåyåkåm★ chitt♥♥r At: 7, Apr 2004 9:19:34 PM IST
Good article VeVa..:)
kaani meeru inkoka main problem ni mee article lo mention cheyya ledhu..which is "LANCHAM"..thats the root of all problems in India.."Katnam" gurinchi chaithanyam ravasindhi nayakullo kaadhu,janallo ravali..but the problem is ,janallo chaithanyam vachchina , action teesukovdaaniki addam vachchedhi "lancham"..dabbu vunna vallu laws ni lancham tho cover chesi daani implement cheyyaniya kunda aapesthunnaru..dantho dabbu vunna vallaki vachche nashtam yemi ledhu..kaani suffer ayyedhi poor and middle class people..katnam ni oppose cheyyaleka ,katnam ivvaka pothe kuthuru pelli avvadhu ani..appulu chesi mari katnam isthunnaru..
so samajamlo nunchi lancham, corruption ni eradicate cheyste kaani migitha anni inter-related problems ki solution ledhu...
just a thought..;)
Posted by: విజయ్ At: 7, Apr 2004 8:41:15 PM IST
http://www.andhraprabha.com/NewsItems.asp?ID=APV20040407035015&Title=Articles&lTitle=%AAy%F9ry%CC%C1V&Topic=0
wonderful...vave garu
Posted by: Mrs. Sneha sarma At: 7, Apr 2004 6:33:01 PM IST
chaalaamandi spandistunnaarani nEnoo chadivaananDee...baagundi:)
Posted by: Mrs. Aruna At: 7, Apr 2004 6:02:03 PM IST
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