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General Forum: Love | | Don't say yes when you want to say no ! | |
| We should give more importance to the love and affection of the hosts which is real. Eatables and other things are just incidental and ignorable. So we should not belittle our hosts even politely.
Posted by: Mr. venu gopal p At: 11, Nov 2003 9:51:47 AM IST
Anupama garu,
Jogarao gari prasna: // how do you react to a reponse contrary to your expectations knowing fully well that the other person is not honest with his response?//
Naa samadhanam: // Well, that is his compulsion to lie for the reasons best known to him only. On the other hand it is sufficient for me to know that he lied. //
He asked me what will be my reaction when I get a response contrary to my expectation knowing fully that the other person has lied.
So I know that he lied. In the first place it is my duty to respect others’ compulsions. Secondly, as I am fully aware that he lied I will take care of myself whatever thus follows. So it is sufficient for me to know that he lied. There is no necessity of fighting with that person or giving sermons about virtues of truth. We cannot have control on others’ tendencies, but we can always check our own tendencies.
Elsewhere you have said that we can politely give suggestions even to our hosts about the items which are not upto the mark instead of telling a lie that they are good. Please think again. Can we say like that being a guest. A guest should praise and thank his host for the hospitality shown to him according to his means. A guest should feel and express his happiness whatever he is offered. He should not find faults with the feast. Emantaru.
Posted by: Mr. venu gopal p At: 11, Nov 2003 9:48:58 AM IST
Its always true..but, can you say it is possible all the time in love..
Posted by: Mr. Bosu Avunoori At: 11, Nov 2003 4:02:45 AM IST
maunamE chaalaa praSnalaku samaadhaanam
Posted by: Raj Sekhar At: 10, Nov 2003 8:43:26 PM IST
tappinchuku tiruguvaad^u dhanyud^u sumati
Posted by: Mrs. Saila Sarigala At: 10, Nov 2003 8:13:40 PM IST
Dont say anything if u want to say no!
ante betteremo....noppimpaka thaanovvaka thappinchukovacchu....
Posted by: Raj Sekhar At: 10, Nov 2003 7:54:57 PM IST
Thank you Gopika garu...
I await Jogarao ji's further comments.
Posted by: Mr. venu gopal p At: 10, Nov 2003 5:20:12 PM IST
Well, that is his compulsion to lie for the reasons best known to him only. On the other hand it is sufficient for me to know that he lied.
It is not that we have to avoid outspokenness altogether. One has to be straight forward and honest to bring dignity to life. But then we cannot make others life miserable by being outspoken everytime everywhere. As I said earlier, as long as there is no malafied intention or personal gain out of the lie, I think one should not bother much about this.
I welcome your further reasoning on this subject. Because the ultimate goal of every man is same i.e. to reach the place where he has come from; some walk, some stumble, some run but everyone will reach, sooner or later.
Posted by: Mr. venu gopal p At: 10, Nov 2003 4:42:00 PM IST
Mr.Venugopal.
how do you react to a reponse contrary to your expectations knowing fully well that the other person is not honest with his response?
Posted by: Mr. jogarao pilla At: 10, Nov 2003 3:18:39 PM IST
I think saying yes when it is no and no when it is actually yes under certain compulsion is ok so long as it does not cause damage to others. By doing so he is fully aware that he is lying and thereby accepts whatever thus follows. Except for the all renounced yogis, these situations are unavoidable for worldly people. As long as there is no malafied intention or personal benefit out of the lie, I think one should not bother much about this.
Posted by: Mr. venu gopal p At: 10, Nov 2003 3:02:57 PM IST
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