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General Forum: Life in USA | | Divorce and After Divorce | |
| Careless... or no interest... right, that makes us not to learn our mother tongue.
My son, who is living in Chennai since he started talking, studying in Chennai with Hindi as his optional language, reads Telugu letters(ofcourse, only achchulu).
Anyways, its upto their own interest. I apologise for my intentional comments.
Posted by: Durga Prasad At: 21, Jan 2004 6:32:15 PM IST
Sir, there is a differnce to know mother tongue
to read mother font!!!!!!
I think so
is it not?
Posted by: Ms. srise Srinivas At: 21, Jan 2004 6:11:27 PM IST
So, no need to know about mother tongue... good logic.
Posted by: Durga Prasad At: 21, Jan 2004 6:06:28 PM IST
if you born to telugu parents but brought up some other places other than AP in india itself you may not be knowing telugu fonts
it is not necessary that telugu person should read telugu fonts!!!!!!!!!!
similarly other region people who brought in AP can read ........
logic suits........
Posted by: Ms. srise Srinivas At: 21, Jan 2004 5:24:34 PM IST
You can't read Telugu? Click on the font help... the left most button of the three buttons in this window... when you try to post a message. That will tell you how to download Telugu font on your PC and will show you the Telugu messages in Telugu.
Oh... I misunderstood your posting... you can't read telugu at all! Thats amazing!!! Can't you read Telugu being a Telugu person??? What does that mean?
I remember Janghala Papayya Sastri's words...
Posted by: Durga Prasad At: 21, Jan 2004 1:00:02 PM IST
Mr Fich Atticus thanks for your comment and i will definitely keep in mind while writing.Thanks
MR hima samira i agree with you almost everything what ever u said in this forum.I may disagree one thing.U said that some own parents doesnot love their kids as much as loving partner kids.But i didnt come across in my life this type of situation.I see all parents loving their kids more than anybody in their lifes.THere may be the possibilty that step mom/dad treating partner kids and her/him kids equally.But not more than their own kids.May be in yr experience you might have heard or seen.Is there any example like that.I am just curious to know because i see outside that every parent love their kids so much.If it happened,i am sorry for pointing out here,asking you the question and seeking answer from you. But very much curious to hearwhen some body out there like that.May be some parents does not have love on kids , those non loving parents may treats the partner kids the same way only,but not better than their own kids.But as i might go wrong, i wanted to hear from you if you have one example.if you dont want to say also its ok.As i am curious as this really not heard,just asking.
Posted by: Mr. santhosh vemuri At: 21, Jan 2004 11:35:55 AM IST
Santosh vemuri,
What you are trying to say is good but it is a pain to read. Can you inster some spaces and blank lines next time?
Posted by: Finch Atticus At: 21, Jan 2004 5:09:38 AM IST
The first thing is I am very very sorry for you man.sorry.really sorry.yr narration of yr story touched me a lot.You have bright future waiting for you man.Dont be pessimistic any time about any matter.May god bless u all the time.Always say to yrself that whatever happened is for good .Its not the saying man,its true man.It also keeps u motivated dont deter while handling issues,and feels you better always.U are saying that she is not fit for u and you are happy now as u gotten rid of her,whether she left you or you left her,u are no more a misery person now.I know the problem is also not this now.You are undeceided about yr mate in life and wavering position.If u had Not gotten luck so far,God is testing u man.In these situations only we should not falter.Life without hurdles is like food without spices man.Problems come and go but we should not deter any time.We act like everything normal.I am not here to give motivational topics.Lets come to yr present concerns in life.u wanted to know which lady is better either indian or usa and u feel that indian ladys are better.One thing u remember here that geographical location doesnot matter to deceide on good or bad.U take for example one indian lady who is simple in india ,less argumentative in india,respect elders in india,smooth talking in india and wehn she comes to usa or any other country or gets job in the sme country ,she becomes independent(please undersatand one important word independent),their nature may suddenly change just opposite to what ever i listed before.Its not that she changed in due course with fame or moeny or status.The actual reason is she was dependent there in india and suppressed her feelings always,.not letting her true nature exposed and behaved like adjusting person in india.In our country we know ladys dont have much freedom when compared to men in anything.so they always worry about the consequences they may face if they express their dislikings,oppose things, and acts not accordingly to mens wishes.In usa people have more freedom and also they may be independent and so does not worry about consequences.Its not the fault of ladies man.Its not their fault at all.u cant curse them for exhibiting double standards ,the culprit is our whole system our culture.our culture tells limited freedom to ladies.Thats why for generatios ladies suffered calmly.even husband beats wife wife dont have say or any way.But they are not happy in their lifes.Men think that we are great as wife listens and does what men wants(these things common in movie ksemauga velli laabamugaa randi).The real fact is ,if you behave as good husband then u dont need to worry about wife leaving you ,even in usa or in india.No lady will take the risks and geopardise their lfes unless they are left with no option.They dont take hasty decisions .I am not saying all ladies are good .There may be crazy people too who wants more money fame status etc and they cant be good wifes whatever the husband puts best effort to save marriage or some ladys who had lover before marriage etc.Some ladys also dont have adjusting nature.But one thing men wanted to know is men too love wife to the same extent she does or more(may be) but fails in expressing.Express often man.Praise them all the times for their little works too.Take one example,Genarally ladies feel boredom in cooking and so when they cook they expect husband to recognise that ,praise food etc.In that way she will be encouraged to cook happily in future.Most men comminicate well at work or in business but they often dont put much effort in knowing what womens needed most in life.We all know ours thinking and ladys thinking are different.But ladys should also understand about mens nature and should give some relaxation in this,if they expect love thats good and men have loving nature anyway comparable with ladies.I am not saying that all ladies are good in expressing well .Expecting from husband to is not a good thing they should know their weaknesses or faults and try to work on that improve constantly atleast to some extent.Women often compare husbnand with other husbands.But husbands wont compare and they adjust even if caring or understanding less.Men mainly expect, a good wife simple wife less argumentative.In general way i am saying.i am not expert in analysing either lady or man.I can tell soemthing about men but not much about ladys as i am not a lady.But we should always know the simple things thye need most..Man i will tell you its difficult to know the true nature of ladies unles s u give freedom to express or uindependence .So what i feel is if u want to select by yrself u may go wrong .so give that chance to yr parents .based on the history of family they can find whether lady is smooth simple less argumentative or more understandign etc.U cant know directly by contacting a lady how many times u do.You may be misleaded.There may be fast ladies in india too and there may be slow ladies in other countries too.Think that u are a non drinker will u changed now after coming to usa.Never .As we are men we dont be afraid of anything so we always behave with our true natures.But ladies are different .our society suppressed them.Many people praises our vedas or cultures or traditions.But i wont .why ladies should have less freedom in doing what they wanted to do and why men has no barriers.I strongly oppose sati or wearing buirqas etc.Here as the question is not on thse issues,i deviate from that.what my advise is 'u give chance to parents this time or otherwise see in yr local ads the profiles which says simple nature and contact them and know whether they are really simple or arrogant and in the first place itself u know these things better than later stages of acquaintance.In the first place itslef ask do u like to be house wife(as u said in yr message that u prefer house wife) or working wife.Rememer ask these questions in the first place itslef,not after some contacts,because later as attachment grows they may acceopt to u whatever u say and after marriage when slight differences arise she may change her thoughts on the subjects u both agreed on before the marriage.But one request is you make sure f om yr side that thers no wrong,if you needs to be changed u should be willing to change for wife.Then god definitely bless you.You do yr work well in making marriage a success and leave results to god.Remember these things ,whatever has happened is happened,what ever going to happen will happen surely,what ever happening right now will also happen.why sad man.You didnt bring anything here ,nor created anything.today what ever beloings to you belongs to somebody tommorrow and some other day it belongs to some other person.Its from bhagavadgeeta.dont depress man.good life is awaiting u and about marrying divorced person.Its a great thing as u are giving life to one divorced.I know that divorced people will get unmarried ladys ,But its little difficult to get unmarried men to divorcees or good match in divorcees as divorced people may get unmarried as u know another evil which is dowry.Thats why this happen.Thats suffering most ladies with that evil.so poor people will marry divored men.U are giving life to one person.she will be lucky.But what i am saying is you should forgot her past completely.dont ever bring those topics in yr married life.start fresh life both people.There are also chances of comparing with Ex(EX husband or ex wife).Its a challenge But as u said she wont be immature as she also divorce and she know the problems of living with divorce stamp in our society(the pbm comes from ladies only as they pass comments on divorced ladies and from men too).This time she will be more careful and also u too will be careful as u both doesnot want any more hassles .Its yr decison man.we can only give advises and everything is in yr hand to mould yr future.god bless you and yr future wife.Pardon me if somebody doesnot like my way of talking and my ideas and my expression..
Posted by: Mr. santhosh vemuri At: 20, Jan 2004 8:19:14 AM IST
:) hima :)
Posted by: బుజ్జిది At: 20, Jan 2004 3:28:34 AM IST
himaa I agree with u and like u
Posted by: బుజ్జిది At: 20, Jan 2004 0:39:28 AM IST
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