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General Forum: Love | | What is unconditional love? | |
| I want to share my friend's response with regards to this matter.
'Unconditional love may mean being able to love everyone, everything without reserve or judgment, warts and all, but here's the thing I always forgot-just because I can love and accept someone for who they are doesn't mean that I have to let them treat me any way they want to. Everyone has the free will to behave as they choose. I can feel love and compassion for someone without letting them hurt me if that's the way they are choosing to treat people. Sometimes people come into our lives because we each have things to learn from the other, but if a person steps over the line and becomes harmful, there may be a good reason to end the relationship. I suspect someone may be in that category when I begin to feel worse after spending time with them. I examine why I'm feeling bad about the relationship to see if it's just not that they're pushing me to grow and I'm resisting. I've learned to get brutally honest with myself about this because I do tend to run when growth becomes uncomfortable. I offer the situation up in meditation and thank the Divine for the outcome that is for my highest good. Usually things start to move in one direction or another at this point. If I'm honest and open, I'll recognize what's happening. I'm a recovering co-dependent, so this is a huge step for me. I've also learned to let everything play out in it's own time. Whenever I've tried to rush things, I've always made a decision that wasn't in my best interest and usually set me back. I've also learned the distinction between feeling that it was my responsibility to take care of everyone (told you I was co-dependent!) and being willing to play a helpful part in the lives of people I have relationships with. I'll give everything I have to give to someone who will truly benefit. Those relationships enhance both people. But if it becomes draining or one-sided, I reconsider. What starts out as mutually beneficial may not always stay that way. Hope this helps you with your situation! Love and light!'
Posted by: Sidda Lee C At: 22, Jun 2005 5:43:21 AM IST
Posted by: Ms. Aparna At: 18, Jun 2005 8:22:48 AM IST
yes I agree with you its good
Posted by: Mr. Bhaskar At: 19, Jun 2005 2:08:20 AM IST
I think I know who you are talking about and no, I'm not her. You're the second or third person to think so.
Posted by: Sidda Lee C At: 18, Jun 2005 11:38:37 AM IST
Unconditional love in my perception is where you dont see these kind of characters like rich,poor,fair,dark,king,pauper,Handsome, average,having bad habbits,hurthing you, rejecting you or basically any kind of characters..
Unconditional love is basically for most of them its their first love. Unconditional love is you will do any thing for the person you love, ready to give up any thing, go thru unnecessary troubles, egoless and with full of sacrifice for the person you love. Un conditional love never finds fault in that person.
Posted by: Ms. Aparna At: 18, Jun 2005 8:22:48 AM IST
Why not? What do you think everyone here has expressed, if not for some form of an opinion?
I'm sure we don't(or at least I don't) come here to get into tiffs, so, let's just agree to disagree and move on.
Posted by: Sidda Lee C At: 18, Jun 2005 5:47:26 AM IST
opinions dont come under the purview of a discussion !
Posted by: Mr. Pit and the Pendulum At: 17, Jun 2005 2:05:47 PM IST
That is your opinion and of course, you're entitled to have it.
Posted by: Sidda Lee C At: 16, Jun 2005 11:36:34 PM IST
well,if u can conclude that ,there exists a condition of unconditional love ,i beg to differ ,there can never exist unconditional love
Posted by: Mr. Doctorate Thief At: 16, Jun 2005 11:17:56 PM IST
You can call me just 'Sidda'. I don't know why but in here quite a few people tend to call me by both my names. I guess I'm not used to it.
I haven't reached a conclusion as yet but there is unconditional love for sure.
Posted by: Sidda Lee C At: 16, Jun 2005 10:02:03 AM IST
Thank you all for your response. Though varied, it has definitely given me alot to think about.
But Malakpet, I think you hit the nail right on the head about unconditional love with 'When u are in unconditional love, you must be happy even when the pendulum is completely on the other side!'
Posted by: Sidda Lee C At: 16, Jun 2005 6:27:52 AM IST
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