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General Forum: Society | | Invitation: Discussion about Discussion :) | |
| Good Suggestions, Sir. (somehow I can't mention PM:)) But who are interested to pay to be the moderators or to complain? Personally, I don't think this idea can be worked out. Mostly TP was found on the basis of free entertainment.
Anyway, let us see other members' opinion too. Then Admin can decide whether they can be workable or not.
Which Prashanthi are you talking about? Is it Prasanthi Uppalapati?:))
Posted by: Ms. Prasanthi Uppalapati At: 19, Jun 2005 3:07:47 PM IST
Dear Mr. PP, you have a valid point. But the thing is who can be the moderators?
1) It can only be from the members who frequent. There cannot be someone who just read all the threads and keep a watch on them.
2) Who are ready here to be moderators? Even if the admin selects few members as the moderators, there might be rumours or complaints that admin is pro to few regular visitors. (It shouldn't be so). There should be some consensus among the members. Can there be an opinion poll regarding the moderators? Who are willing to be moderators? How many of them can get members' support?
What I feel is, we should respect or treat the person who creates the thread as moderator. If someone do not approve the person or the topic or the way a discussion proceeds, can point out or else if they feel it is of no use, they can just ignore that particular thread and start a thread of their own. It is far better.
Posted by: Ms. Prasanthi Uppalapati At: 19, Jun 2005 12:42:34 PM IST
why doesnt the admin realise the need for moderators ?quite a few despots frequent the site ,and most of them get into an argument ,just for the heck of it ,rather than to post a valid point .
I am quite pleased with the despots ,broken ceramics as they have been suessfully kept me off the discussion boards ,rather the chat has been my fav place ,but ,the chat stinks a lot more ,these days .
guess the site is in for a toss ,unless ,something concrete is done ,atleast the posts of the members to the admin are taken in proper light and some kind of seriousness shown with regard to the suggestions and enhancements pointed out .
Posted by: Mr. Pit and the Pendulum At: 19, Jun 2005 12:04:07 PM IST
Malakji, I didn't understand your response. I was regular in TP Discussion 3 years back. Not now. Very recently, from a week or 10 days back, I started to browse the site again. I just participated in few threads. If at all I wish to comment on any thing that is going on or on any person, I can directly say in the same thread addressing such person.
This is a general posting which is a call to every member of this site who participates or interested in participating the discussion. I really didn't understand your response here. Anyway, no hard feelings.
It is very difficult for the Admin to monitor and check each and every thread. Also this is such a site where most of the members feel it like home and a sort of addicted. I hope you too the same. (TP Addiction :)) For those who can take things positive and just infer and confine the comments and fights only to the thread and the topic of discussion, it is ok. But few people are not and they might be new to the way discussion goes and so they may eventually prefer to go.
Fights are not fun (ofcourse for the people who fight too). Even though people seems to enjoy them, majority of them will be disappointed. Keeping this in view, I posted this thread, requesting healthy participation from all the members.
Also as long as participants do not use a sort of unparliamentary language and degenerating comments, Admin do not delete the posting too leave alone the thread.
TP always maintains the site as member-driven but not admin-driven. Admins try their level best to keep this site as pleasing as possible to the members. It is a site where every telugu person should come and enjoy, spend quality time, have fun, learn something etc., Any one should feel this as his/her own home and invite friends to join and be part of a big family, a telugu family :)
Hope you can now understand my intention of posting the thread here. Honestly this is intended for all members of this site.
Posted by: Ms. Prasanthi Uppalapati At: 19, Jun 2005 10:39:27 AM IST
If u are referring to the arguments I 'm involved in then relax .. I'm a Decade old chatter, got into worse situations and got out of them ..
Of course, I Do know where to stop :)) and I dont think I have used filthy lingo, though I have used rude lingo.
All of my comments have been retorts .. A rude comment about profession/culture/religion has been countered with a "double treat" on the same and a personal comment has been countered with a personal comment ..
I need not do this everytime if the admin steps in at the appropriate time ... I would rather say people have left TP due to inaction on the part of admin in many cases even when complaints were properly launched.
If you think this qualifies me to be a blocked member then please do go ahead and delete my profile ... I can get out of the TP addiction atleast :)) and my exit would also please (rather relieve) one open and three hidden faces.
NOT KIDDING, for a change :))
Posted by: Malakpet Rowdy At: 18, Jun 2005 11:06:01 PM IST
Hello Friends,
I just posted the points from Shiv Khera's 'You can win'. When I was reading those lines, I feel like posting it in our TP where discussion board is a very good meeting place and the way to know about the things from everyone's angle.
If discussions be done in the true purpose, we all get to know few things which we otherwise don't know. For example, about the Dowry act posted by Advocate Tilak garu.
Anyway every TP member wishes healthy discussions in the board. In fact, this is fact that many regular visitors of TP left the site only because of the misbehaviour or inappropriate language in the board.
So for a change, I posted this topic. No doubt that most of the members are very talented. Why not we discuss in a meaningful way? Discussions can be sarcastic, critical, funny, humorous, but still should be related to the topic of the discussion, then it will be good. IMHO :)))
Posted by: Ms. Prasanthi Uppalapati At: 18, Jun 2005 10:38:14 PM IST
looolz Crocy, Not even 2 cents? :))
Posted by: Malakpet Rowdy At: 18, Jun 2005 9:04:36 PM IST
Well Myrtle,
I lost my cool too because of some rude comments made about my profession and the culture I love. It happens at times!
Posted by: Malakpet Rowdy At: 18, Jun 2005 8:19:59 PM IST
Hey Prashanthi,
Good points there!
Yep, I wish ppl were more polite & made sense like Malakpet Rowdy when discussing issues.
When the discussion gets heated up or when someone is just acting up, I think it's better not to respond to avoid further arguments.
I mean, at the end of the day, why bother proving & explaining yourself to a stranger on where you stand on the issue. Well, I guess it defeats the purpose of having a discussion, but all the exchange of personal remarks is just not worth it !
Posted by: Krishna Ch At: 18, Jun 2005 8:08:45 PM IST
Steps to Opening a Discussion
1. Be open-minded.
2. Don't be dragged into an argument.
3. Don't interrupt.
4. Listen to the other person's point of view before giving your own.
4. Ask questions to clarify. That will also set the other person thinking.
5. Don't exaggerate.
7. Be enthusiastic in convincing, not forceful.
8. Be willing to yield.
9. Be flexible on petty things but not on principles.
10. Don't make it a prestige issue.
11. Give your opponent a graceful way to withdraw without hurting his pride. Rejection can
be hurtful.
12. Use soft words but hard arguments rather than hard words & soft arguments .
It is impossible to defeat an ignorant man in an argument. His strong and bitter words only indicate a , weak cause.
During a discussion, it may be a good idea to use phrases such as:
• It appears to me ...
• I may be wrong ...
Another way to defuse arguments is by showing ignorance and asking questions such as:
• Why do you feel that way?
• Can you explain a little?
• Can you be more specific?
If nothing works, it may be worthwhile to politely, gently, and with courtesy, agree to disagree.
If one wants to accomplish great things in life one has to practice maturity. Maturity means not getting entangled in unimportant things and petty arguments.
An argument throws heat; a discussion throws light.
One stems from ego and a closed mind whereas the other comes from an open mind.
An argument is an exchange of ignorance whereas a discussion is an exchange of knowledge.
An argument is an expression of temper whereas a discussion is an expression of logic.
An argument tries to prove who is right whereas a discussion tries to prove what is right.
. give a patient hearing. not fight back or retaliate that--will confuse the other person because he was expecting a fight.
not expect an apology. For some people, apologizing is difficult even if they have made a mistake.
4. not make issues out of petty matters.
Discussion entails not only saying the right thing at the right time but also leaving unsaid what need not be said.
Posted by: Ms. Prasanthi Uppalapati At: 18, Jun 2005 12:39:58 PM IST
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