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General Forum: Love | | Talla-Pellama | |
| hello.,
ee topic gurinchi naa abhiprayam.
talla- pellama
manaku pelli kakamundhu talli mukyam.
pelli ayenaka talli ni kastapettakunda pellanni badhapettakunda chudatam mana vidhi.
talli manalni nammukoni vuntundhi. pellam manalni nammukoni vastundhi. kabathi edharini bhadapettakunda chusukovali. appude manam manchi pourudu ga, manchi bidda ga,
manchi bartha ga vundagalam.
Posted by: Mr. sarath At: 23, Jul 2002 11:18:40 AM IST
As said by some people here "bharya santosham eppudu bharta pravartana pai aadhaari padi untundi. bharya nu koodaa nirlakshyam cheyakoodadu" again this is half sided support. What if i change the sentence like this "bhartha santosham eppudu bharya pravartana pai aadhaari padi untundi. bhartha nu koodaa nirlakshyam cheyakoodadu".
Kesava kumar gaaru,
Idi one sided statement antoone meeru marala alage chepparu,oka ammaye marriage tharuvatha valla parents ni andharini vadilesi vasthundhi kabatti,appati varaku garabamga peruguthundhi kabatti barya,kodalu ilanti responsibilities ki alavatu pade lopu abbaye ea mathram care theesukoka poyenaa there are more chances nirlaksham chesthunnaremo ane bavana raavadaniki.
Ika oke intilo perigina idhdharu brother or sisters abhiprayalu,bhavalalone thedalu vunnappudu different vathavaranamlo perigina couple madya bedhabiprayalu raakunda vundalante konchem understanding.konchem adjustments thappakunda vundali ,then 'marriage' ane pavithra bandham ni santhosham ga enjoy cheyyavachchu.
Posted by: Mrs. Aruna At: 23, Jul 2002 10:32:06 AM IST
Talla leeka pellama? interesting question, ardam chesukunee manastatvam unna vallaki talliki, pellaniki samanamaina nyayam cheyavachu. Ikkada ardam chesukunee manastatvam ane daniki chala ardalu unnai. Talli chala important till son get married, till then she always tries to set the standard of childrens life (but all chidren take them in their own way once they cross some stage of age, better after 15 years) till Mr.Son is got married, she (mother) has her own style of living style and feels that is the best to follow. Even chidren too follow the same principles. But after marriage, a new bride (some in law feels like alien) welcomes and try to follow the same rules and regulations, in mean of following she distinguish the difference in her way of living (brides mothers place) and current living style in in-laws, and try to impose or implement certain principles of their mother steps (here is the turning point) If husband is strong and capable, he can control whole family else when new bride (wife) plans to keep/Post new laws there start (ladies Mahabharatha) who ever goes in to that zone are submerily trashed. Finally wife ask question to husband "if you want to ur mother stay here else come with me lets lead an independent life" I dont want to say this happens on all families, but many families are victims of this. But there are some families who still maintain a united family.
If the prime person who lead the family is strong and authenticative and value to family believes then chidren and new life partners of their chidren does follow them. Then chidren will sure to give respect to talli, tandri and pellam.
As said by some people here "bharya santosham eppudu bharta pravartana pai aadhaari padi untundi. bharya nu koodaa nirlakshyam cheyakoodadu" again this is half sided support. What if i change the sentence like this "bhartha santosham eppudu bharya pravartana pai aadhaari padi untundi. bhartha nu koodaa nirlakshyam cheyakoodadu".
When I used to go my village in summer vacation, my relatives have a big joint family. All akka, bava, vadina pillalu abbo chala mandi relatives undevaru oke intlo, but after death of my mama (big of the family) all chidren got split and now lead their own life, now if i go to same place need to visit almost 6 to 7 houses. But all are now having their own living and in good prosper. This all happened after our 4 bava's getting married, does this have any impact on their "pellam (s)", in mean they all take care of their mother and father.
So in my view, oka talli kothaga vachina kodalini tana sonta biddala choosukovali, allane kotha ga vachine bharya intlo andariki tana vallugane choodali plus bidda (son) kooda kothaga vachina pellam mojulo padi kallu moosuku pokunda intlo jarige sangatulani ardam chesuko samsaram anee navaki diksuchila untee talla aa leeka pallama ane prasnee raadu.
Anukovachu matalkem boledanni cheppochu, ilantivi chetalathi chesi choopistee appudu telustundi talla pellama??? aneedi. But currently I have these opinion, let me see how I can implement once I get ...... :-))
Cheers
Kesava
Posted by: Mr. Kesava Kumar Grandhi At: 23, Jul 2002 1:43:25 AM IST
Talli, magavaaniki, atani bhaarya ki iddariki "Talli" kaavaali. iddaru aamenu , aame bhartanu koodaa(nannani) santhoshapettaali. bharya santosham eppudu bharta pravartana pai aadhaari padi untundi. bharya nu koodaa nirlakshyam cheyakoodadu.
Jalandar garu, Talliki "santosham" baagaane undi. Kaani bhaaryaki "Sukham" to aapesaaremandi. Sukham maatrame kaadu Santhosham koodaa kaavaalandi bhaaryaki. Santosham leni sukham, savam laantidi, anubhutulu undavu.
Posted by: Ms. Prasanthi Uppalapati At: 22, Jul 2002 1:35:29 PM IST
Jalandar garu ,
Meeru ee question ni topic modalu pettina dyvadheenam garini adigara leka nanna ardham kaaledhu.
But nanne ayethe kanuka naa ans idi,
Nenu Aman gari posting ki saradaga comment chesanu thappa naa posting ide topic lo 12 th June naa vundhi choodandi.
Posted by: Mrs. Aruna At: 22, Jul 2002 12:11:00 PM IST
entandi, ila adigaaru...?
ee mee prashna ki javaabu memu ivvadamu kaadandi!, adi meeru meeke teliyaali?
enti nenenti ila raastunnanu anukuntunnara? meere oka saari manchiga vichaarinchandi!
'Amma' (janma nichhinadi & jeevitham lo manamu inta edigamante vaari krushi valanane kadaa.....intavaraku jeevithamlo vaallu manakosam entho cheshaaru, kaani ippdu manamaina vaallani saadhyamainantha varaku 'santhosham'ga vunchaalani meeku anipinchadam ledaa!!!!
ika pote 'Barya' (pelli anedi jeevithamlo sagabhaagam tho kalasi jeevinchedi.....endukante sagabhaagam of live talli chethilo intavaaramu ayyamu...ika AMMA inka manalni choodaledu kadaaa! vaaru kooda alasi poyi vuntaaru kada! ika migilina life vaarini 'santhosham'pedutu....mariyu mee BARYA kooda ika jeevithamlo bhagyashwami andukani aamenu kooda 'sukham'ga chudali...'rendu kallu manave , denilonchaini neeru kaaraga chustaama!!!!
Posted by: Mr. Jalandar Ande At: 22, Jul 2002 11:52:40 AM IST
dwamdwa samaasamaa!!!!!!
Mari madyalo naligipoye aa maanavudu????????
Posted by: Mrs. Aruna At: 22, Jul 2002 10:16:30 AM IST
i think in man's life both play an imortant role..till he is married mother will be there for him after marraige wife takes that role and she will be there for him in every step he takes.
Posted by: bujji p At: 21, Jul 2002 5:00:36 PM IST
Hello Ravi vedhula garu ans cheppakunda bachler ni ani thappinchukuntoo andhari meedha comments baane chesthunnaru.But meeru alochincha valasina point idi anukuntanu.marriage ayena vallu elagoo edo okati cheyyaka thappadhu.
But ee busy life lo parents tho kalisi vundevallu chala thakkuva mandhe,kalisi leka poyenaa kooda thalli py na prema ni thappa kunda choobincha vachchu, phone lo frequent ga matladuthoo appudappudu choosi vasthu, thalli ki kavalsindhi koduku kaani, koothuru kaanee thanapy choobinche prema thappa barya py kante ekkuva naa py chubisthunnada ledha annadhi kaadhu.okari life lo barya ki vunna importance ame ki vundhi kaanee thalli kante kaadhu.emo naaku thochinadhi nenu raasanu.emantaru
Posted by: Mrs. Aruna At: 12, Jun 2002 10:08:50 AM IST
i don't think it maters for discussion. anyway i am not married.
Posted by: ravi At: 12, Jun 2002 4:01:16 AM IST
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