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General Forum: Society | | Giving and Taking Dowry is nothing but corruption...A Debate. | |
| Hey srinivas that was a good one..of leo tolstoy.
Posted by: Mr. kalyan chakravarthy vinnakota At: 12, May 2003 6:08:31 AM IST
But Love marriages alone cannot be solution.
Look at the caste less, religion independent, dowry less, developed, affluent western countries where marriages have to follow love (or dating in their terminology).
These societies are plagued with high rate of singles especially people in later ages, high divorce rate etc. Our culture is much better when you compare any family values..
Posted by: Mr. Rambabu Ch At: 12, May 2003 5:55:28 AM IST
Everybody thinks of changing humanity and nobody thinks of changing himself.
-- Leo Tolstoy
Posted by: Mr. M.S.Reddy At: 12, May 2003 5:52:04 AM IST
Look at another angle: Even when dowry is so attractive, it never was able to break barriers of caste/religion. Boys are not often ready to do inter caste marriage even if they are offered higher dowry...
Love marriages are often quite successful in breaking all these so called "social evils" such as caste/religion/dowry etc.
Posted by: Mr. Rambabu Ch At: 12, May 2003 5:41:13 AM IST
Thanks Mr.Rambabu ... I was trying to convey what I felt the actual problem was …. That’s all .
And Mr.Kalyan I got you .. Iam very Bad in doing these kind of postings
Posted by: Mr. Kumar Sagar At: 12, May 2003 5:02:19 AM IST
It would be nice if individual personal information (especially about family) is not made public (Mr Kumar)...
A solution given should be suitable for the majority to be able to follow. Just be aware Mr Kumar, many of NRIs who are participating in this discussion, dowry is insignificant and irrevelant (often less than the cost we incur on tickets/leave). The problem mainly remains in the middle class back in India....
Posted by: Mr. Rambabu Ch At: 12, May 2003 4:17:47 AM IST
It was a good one kumar, but make sure that You make it short so that every one reads cos there are some ppl who see the huge content and do not have the patience to read.
Posted by: Mr. kalyan chakravarthy vinnakota At: 11, May 2003 11:41:41 PM IST
Well let me give my opinions on this subject ….
I think dowry is a social crime in which both the guy and girl ( or to be more precise males and the females ) both are equally responsible.
I have always heard or seen ( ofcourse in movies ) and in news papers that girls who were killed because of dowry … the guys mother had a big role … so it’s the women who is a big Villain . Iam not saying that the guy has nothing to do with it … he is also a big Villain ….
But one thing I want to make it clear is yea it’s a good thing that both ( guy and girl ) come forward and say “NO” to this social evil . { please …. One more clarification to this statement is it becomes an evil when u force in to it } …
But the thing the amuses me most ( sorry for using the word amusing in this serious discussion ) is the girl who says I don’t want to marry a guy with dowry and when she has a boy expects it .( again not all but most of them ) …. To cut short …
If we thing its just the males responsibility to see that this system goes its not going to happen … it has to come form both ….as women has the same part in this as males do ….I think it’s the attitude that has to be changed …..my parents are dead against taking dowry , my mom says people how don’t have ability to earn take dowry …..and I don’t think my three sons come in to that category … she always used to say if you get something you have not worked for then don’t take it ( ofcourse she used to say this for us not to copy in exams ( :
But see even after having such a good parents …last year when my niece was born … I have deposited good amount of money telling my brother that its for her marriage ….. wove look at me in my case I don’t want to take and when it comes to my niece I want to give …. This is the attitude that we have to change ….
Don’t think that because u have u want to give ( to all fathers and moms ) … and even if you give don’t give to the guy …keep it in her personal Account . Please don’t publize it saying that “you know we gave XX amount for my daughter …
I know for my brother we did not ask anything but they deposited some amout on girls name and they made sure that everyone in the world knows about it …. This is what has to stop … these are the things which make others forcefully to give even though they can not afford to … I have seen girls ( most of my friends ) saying if my father dosent give X amount in dowary iam not going to marry ……..
----- My final conclusing is Women and Men are both equally Guilty of this Crime .
To Stop it change has to come from Both .
And please Mala Garu don’t say things kind of things “oka vele abbayi mosam chesina property ammayi peru meda untundi kabatti no problem
chachinattu chuskuntadu... ade dabbulanuko estha mocchinattu tagala badutaayi sari pokapothe ammayilani tagala bedutharu”
If you think some one is getting married just because of Money then don’t give ur daughter to him ….
If you think money is the only thing that keeps a relation please change ur views .
One last request to all the girls ( Women ) don’t look guys like villains ( because if we are then u are also ) . Try to respect each other and resolve this Social Crime ….
Sagar
Posted by: Mr. Kumar Sagar At: 11, May 2003 5:23:59 PM IST
That was a good one Rambabu. Atleast this explains Anil why 3 guys were discussing the dowry issue.
Posted by: Mr. Spider Man At: 10, May 2003 0:39:29 AM IST
That was a good information@rambabu
Posted by: Mr. kalyan chakravarthy vinnakota At: 10, May 2003 0:37:20 AM IST
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