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General Forum: Society | | why men always fail in understanding womens mind?? | |
| Hi vijay can you help me in one thing.I saw hmmmmmmzzzz..: in many places here(tp.com) and i didnt understand yet whats the meaning for that.I think in yr message it tells 'Is it or you dont understand me or u dont listen or Its waste telling to you or you never change).I dont know what was right.Just curious to know.Can you educate me.
Thanks
Posted by: Mr. santhosh vemuri At: 5, Feb 2004 9:17:21 AM IST
hmmmmmmzzzz..:)
Posted by: విజయ్ At: 5, Feb 2004 9:03:39 AM IST
Actually i didnt take much time to write because this topic is easy thing to write for me
Thanks anyway for yr comments,concerns etc.
Posted by: Mr. santhosh vemuri At: 5, Feb 2004 9:02:17 AM IST
santosh, mee opika ki naa johaarlu..
:D
Posted by: విజయ్ At: 5, Feb 2004 8:55:01 AM IST
I am sorry.Please correct this sentence.Typo Instead of "Actually she does need money always from you" it should have been "Actually she does not need money always from you"
Posted by: Mr. santhosh vemuri At: 5, Feb 2004 8:46:12 AM IST
We all know god put some similarities in both genders and some dissimilarities.So,Way of thinking is not similar in few of the matters.But with the power of understanding ,listening and communication between both people,this dissimilarities wont be an issue in married life.The failure happens when men does not know clearly the wife needs and her expectations from him.Men normally neglects many things and he thinks some matters are very trivial to him.But the same petty things may be very important to wife.Like for example women wants,calling her by name or with nick name outside infront of many people,buying some things to her while coming from office(even small thing doesnot matter she only feels he has more love on her and she thinks that he remembers her in office and not thinking about other ladies.LOL),dont degrade her in public,respects her always outside,praise her like telling she is the best wife in the world and lucky to get her ,infront of many people(ladies),calling her from office and enquiring how she doing(whether finisihed eating),talking smoothly in a caring way,listening to her always etc etc.There will be a big list what she wants.So Some things men think these are not important to her and trivial he feels.Men normally feels providing food or giving security or giving money to buy what she wanted or satisfying her physical desires by making love ,are the important things.These are the important things ,but a lady will be more happy combining with all the things if there are some more things that adds spice to happy life.
For example if wife asks money men straight away gives money and leave with that thing.Instead if he tells her that ”you are very important to me,I give my whole life to you Money is not big thing to me ,I can give anything to you.I thought you should be asking more than this amount and I am very happy to provide any amount you ask.As I love you so much I give anything to you” then she feels more happy apart from the paper money he gives(Actually she does need money always from you.some times she wants to test you how much you love.So she asks those questions.But you know most of the ladies are stingy.So she doesn’t waste money(So men dont worry on this thing).Ladies knows the value of money even though they don’t do job as they have more thinking skills in family matters and more insight in these matters)
You know some small things (which men feels unimportant things to them) matters to her most.It’s the sweet words gives more happiness to her than the money itself.She wants more expression from males,talking more (sweetly),more caring ,more understanding more loving etc.But as men does not want these things more like ladies needed in life,they cant understand what women want unless ladies express often what she needs.Even some males does not care or ignore wife words (When she tells what she wants from husband) and act according to his wishes.Then finally one day when she informs him that she no longer loves you more ,then men realize at that time that he has to be careful with his wife and he starts doing the things she yells at him.
But still some men doesnot care because he is under the impression that ladies cant live in the society peacefully by leaving him.That’s arrogance in men leads to cracks in married life.So what I mean to say is ,it would be better if each family should undergo some courses which teachs what womens expectations from husband or mens expectations from wife,then the married life will be better,smoothful without hassles.But Many matters they have similarities like scolding partner outside(men or female both feel for this) etc etc.But the expression is lacking in some men and that is necessary to ladies.Wife feels if husband knows by himself what she wants ,she feels more happy rather than men asking her what she wants or she telling to him what she needed.For less active men ,or who talks very less the women should be in action reminding him always,telling what he is not doing,what he is not listening,what he is not understanding, etc.Here the topic was why men don’t understand women.But u know there should be also topic (Some men like thsi topic) why women fail to understand.If men does not express well or sweetly ,women don’t get interest to listen to him.So she doent know(as she lacks interest in listening to him) his needs too.So women may try to understand him ,even if men doesnot express well.I don’t talk all ladies are like that or all men like that.But generally saying as there will be even one case among women who doesnot clearly knows the mens thinking .so ladies also should attend the course .Normally men will be much concentrated on work as he feels the burden of financially supporting the family lies on him.So most of the part he thinks about work only and when he comes from office if women does the nagging ,yelling,demands something (like for eg: telling that you forgot to do this thing today what I like most,didnt talk like this (sweetly) today,Didn’t ask whether I ate or not or forgot to give give kiss before going to office).Some men I guess will be pissed off and so fights arise.So here men should be cool and also women should be cool.As only at the right time (ex after some relaxation if he is tired with work) she should bring up the matters.So both should have cool nature and understanding nature in case of opposite natures living together.As I was too tired today and getting sleep,my sentences are not linked .So matter wont be readable and typos may be there.But I am sorry about that.Lets understand me today(Hey understand is the topic ,whats a coincidence.So start understanding this thing first).There are lot of assumptions in the above matter and its not based on my experience.So Pardon me if I assumed anything wrong.Correct me if you want.Thanks.God bless everybody.
Posted by: Mr. santhosh vemuri At: 5, Feb 2004 8:39:50 AM IST
mmmm that was a posting in September :(((
Posted by: Naren At: 5, Feb 2004 1:50:59 AM IST
hi kalaji.. after a loooooooong time..
Posted by: Naren At: 5, Feb 2004 1:50:30 AM IST
ayyO narakaasuraa..andulO tittekkada vundi raahul..
bahusa vere edaina db lo post cheyalemo meeru?
(meeru kuda chala rojula tarvata vachinattunnaru tp ki..how r u?)
Posted by: Mrs. kala ch At: 17, Sep 2003 12:33:28 PM IST
aite meeru puttagaane aalochinchadam maanesaarannamaata..
:)
Posted by: Mrs. kala ch At: 17, Sep 2003 11:12:24 AM IST
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