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Victimised Husbands !! Helpline ?!!

bharya chEtilO kondaru debba tinagAne... kondaru roDDekkAru! mari bharta chEtullO debbalu.... peLLAlu vEla samvatsarAlanunchi tintunnAru. vALLu roDDekkalEdE! Section.498. Misuse avutunDi nijamE! adI kaTnam unDabaTTE kadA! bhAryA bAditula sangham peTTE badulu kATna vyatireka sangham peTTochu. kusinta pEru ayinA vastundi. paigA I bhArya baditula sangham venuka chAlA veTakAram undi.

Posted by: Mr. Vachaspathi V At: 29, Nov 2004 10:53:56 AM IST

U didnt get Veva's message properly Pavani If the Husband Cheats the wife, then the Husband needs to be blamed If the wife cheats the Husband, then again the husband needs to be blamed because it is HIS fault that he got cheated. ha haaaa .. Thats what the feminists precisely say, if the Court finds that the anti Dowry law is being misused by Women the feminists say " The Court is anti-women, anti-Dalit and all the Judges are males!"

Posted by: Malakpet Rowdy At: 29, Nov 2004 10:15:05 AM IST

I always listen about "Victimised Women/ Wives". Is there a separate outfit called "Victimised Husbands" too? Sounds really funny hahahah lol However, i have nothin to do with this help line or the tag coz i'm not a husband yet..hahahah

Posted by: Janakiram Lakkapragada At: 28, Nov 2004 9:46:27 AM IST

It may be correct as some husbands are cheated by their wives. But the persons who are cheated by somebody need to be blamed. Cheaters are ready to cheat people. .. but in majority cases, husbands are humiliated or hurt because of their ego.

Posted by: Mr. Vachaspathi V At: 18, Nov 2004 7:40:51 PM IST

Do guys also fear their wives? It is quite surprising. But anyway, whoever are the sufferers in the sacred bond called Marriage, we should be with them. I read a column in Deccan Chronicle today that there are websites like www.myexwifesabitch.com etc., Ofcourse the column also mentioned about the women too who were cheated by their husbands. Yeah. I understood now that why people are getting interested to live together without legal tag. This is not a good trend. Thats why we need to be serious about our marriages and also we should spend quality time with our better halfs. We should work as hard to make our married lives a success, as we work hard to make a career.

Posted by: Ms. Prasanthi Uppalapati At: 27, Sep 2004 8:50:58 PM IST

lol I expected the question obviously. Well, I have two friends, who have been victimised(in 1999 and also 2002) under the false dowry cases. Being a writer, I got curious and did some research. Its damn easy. Just write two words 498a misuse in www.goole.com and you can get all the links. This concerns me, when I wonder what will happen next. My experience in a western country shows, that the institution of marriage is in poor shape just due to the law being biased against men. Less than 40% of people marry and there are so many single mothers. People there just get engaged and live together for years just to avoid all the legal hassles. Is this what going to happen to a section of our Indian society ?! One of my friends who is a victim himself told me recently that he is going to open Indian branch of "Fathers for Justice" just in line with what the Batman did on top of Buckingham Palace. May be, his case is like that of "Mrs Doubtfire". Then, we will see people with Superman, Spiderman and Doubtfire kind of outfits monkeying around. The entire saga is quite interesting indeed. The myth of men being strong and egoistic stands shattered. As somebody said, may be it is the paybacktime for the guys. It seems, married men in India have 50% more suicide rate than unmarried men. But in case of women these rates remain the same. May be there are too many skeletons in cupboard, that the macho men do not want to disclose !! I give some more organisations from my data: In Kolkata: Pirito Poti Purush Parishad(PPPP) (+91) (033) 2274-4529 http://www.ppppkolkata.cjb.net/ In Nasik/Mumbai: Purush Hakka Samrakshan Samiti phss@indiatimes.com In Hyderabad of course: Bhaarya Bhaadhitula Sangham

Posted by: Mr. Seeker R At: 24, Sep 2004 11:37:00 PM IST

One more link: http://www.tribuneindia.com/2003/20030808/mailbag.htm This has reference to the news-item "Coming to the rescue of harassed husbands” (July 26). A group of city lawyers have formed ‘Crime Against Husband Cell’ (CAHC) which will ensure complete protection of the fundamental rights of men. The organisation has felt that crimes against husbands have been increasing tremendously over the past few years. In 1997, the battered husbands of Kolkata had formed “Pirito Purush Poti Parishad” (PPPP) and decided to take up cudgels to free themselves from the physical and mental agony heaped on them by their wives. They had demanded that divorce proceedings be simplified and a family court be opened. They also demanded that a new section be included in Section 498-A IPC to punish the wives if harassment was proved in the court. That organisation had also extended the membership to the women. There is difference in both the organisations. One is made by the battered husbands and the other is helping their cause. “How to harass their husband and be happy” is a group in a foreign country. They find new techniques for harassment. The CAHC says, “The object of amendment of any Act is public good and amendments in the law should be made so as to make it relevant to the needs of growing and changing society”. M. L. GARG, Chandigarh

Posted by: Mr. Seeker R At: 24, Sep 2004 0:09:09 AM IST

Read this.... ------------------------------------------ Since last one year, there is a Helpline (91-80-56969850) in Bangalore for distressed men and their family members. It receives about 20 calls in a week from the men who are distressed due to harassment by the wife or her parents. The callers include many techies working in reputed firms and NRIs. As soon as someone calls the helpline, his complaint is heard and he is called for a face-to-face discussion during which a lawyer and a counsellor are present. The NGO called Sangyabalya and the helpline were launched by H V Arun Murthy, a freelance writer originally from Bangalore, who was living happily in Delhi until he was summoned by a court as an accused in a dowry case filed by his sister-in-law. Murthy says his brother married a girl from an orphanage. The marriage went bad very fast and has now ended in a dowry harassment complaint that put Murthy, his brother, and some other family members in jail for a short period. "Who could have paid dowry for that girl? The orphanage authorities?" demands an angry, white-haired, single Murthy. "The courts are always sympathetic to women," he told rediff.com "Even our laws do not recognise the possibility of wives and daughters-in-laws ill-treating husbands and old in-laws. I know of so many cases where section 498-A [of the Indian Penal Code] has just been used as an instrument of blackmail. But public sympathy is all for the perpetrators of the crime. More than 90 per cent of dowry cases filed are dismissed. But no punitive action is taken against the women who file the cases, even though it is sometimes proved that they lied under oath." Under the Indian Penal Code of 498a, the police only require one line in writing from a woman, that her husband/his parents/his brothers/sisters are harassing her physically or mentally with demands of dowry. It is as easy as ordering a Dosa in a hotel. The Police are bound to act by arresting all the accused (including mothers, unmarried sisters) with immediate effect without investigation, send them to Judicial Custody (prison) . This has led to a growing trend of women and her dominant parents harassing the husband and her family and then threatening them of the false complaints in case they resist. So the poor guy and his family tolerate fearing the worst. As this continues, the demands start increasing finally leading to situation when the battered husband and his family could no longer tolerate and they stand up. Then the woman goes for the final kill by filing the case. The imprisoned husband and his family can’t get bail for at least 2 days. If the girl’s family has good connections then the stay in prison can continue for even a month. Often, huge amounts of money is demanded from the guy and his parents for out of court settlements. Many Techies and NRIs in a state of continuous, iterative victimization and defamation, simply comply. Sangyabalya can be contacted at 91-80-56969850. Their email address is victimsof498a@rediffmail.com. Visit www.sangaybalya.org For more details visit the following link and also view the full message board. http://www.rediff.com/news/2003/dec/24spec.htm Other articles: www.deccanherald.com/deccanherald/jun16/c3.asp http://www.hallabol.com/portal/article4.html http://news.indiainfo.com/publicopinion/dowry.html http://www.umiacs.umd.edu/users/sawweb/sawnet/news/news408.txt there is also yagoogroup: misusedowryact http://www.geocities.com/CapitolHill/6708/sowryhar.html

Posted by: Mr. Seeker R At: 23, Sep 2004 0:01:19 AM IST

EnTi funnI gA sounDEdI? nIlAnTOLLunTE chAvarU moguLLu? j/k

Posted by: Bahud♥♥rapu Baatasaari At: 22, Sep 2004 10:10:06 AM IST

:) wtg...I guess it is payback time guys...:p

Posted by: Mr. Rahul Siddharth At: 22, Sep 2004 1:07:07 AM IST

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