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General Forum: Love | | Which are Best ? Love Marriages or Arranged Marriages | |
| Nannu andaru apaartham chesukunnaaru.
Nijamgaa mana peddalu manaku ee jeevitham ivvadame pedda bahumaanam. Jeevitham ivvadame kaadu, aa jeevithaanni, ento anandamayam chesi manam korukunnavannee istunnaaru.
Kaanee pelli vishayamlo chaalaa mandi inkaa pata chintakaaya pachadi bhaavaalane pattuku vellaadutunnaaru. deeniki udaaharana aa madhya varusagaa jarigina premikula aatmahatyale. suicide chesukunna prema jantalaki, vaalla pedda vaallu tama pelli chestaarane nammakam unte, enduku aatmahatya chesukuntaaru? aa context lo alaa vraasaane kaanee, naku pedda valla meeda gouravam leka kaadu. Vallu lekapote, manam asalu unnaamaa andi?
Ika pote, chastaamani bedirinchadam, adi pedda vaallu chesinaa, pillalu chesinaa tappe. It is Emotional Blackmail, in my view.
And as some of you said, Happy Married Life is a pure destiny. Manchi vaallaku chedda vaallu dorukutaaru. iddaroo manchi vaalle ayinaa, vaallu okari kokaru, manchi vaaru kaakapovachu. Compromise kaavaalante, okalla meeda okariki Prema, Gauravam undaali.
I feel Love marriages are good than arranged because they can understand each other very well. Ofcourse it should be a matured love. Practical love ane vishayam ni nenu angeekarinchanu. Practical Love ante, profit and loss compare chesukoni, pillalu chesukune arrangement. Ikkada prema undadu, just mutual benefits choosukoni, ye risk ledu anukunte, they agree to marry. It is also some sort of arrangement, one shouldn't use the word "Love" here.
"LOVE" is something great. Ofcourse, many people may not have it or may not get it.
Evaru enni cheppinaa, emi chesinaa, aa padam viluva aa padaanide.(Mallee ikkada Love ki different forms untaayi, Parents love, friends love, siblings love ani specify cheyakandi. The word itself implies it). Evaru ye drushtito chooste, aa meaning undi aa padaaniki.(Think positive. I did not mean Lust here).
Posted by: Ms. Prasanthi Uppalapati At: 6, Sep 2002 3:03:35 PM IST
ya i agree with u .But in love marriages there will be no body to comprimise u.Bcoz u r independent.But in arranged marriages atleast parents will give suggestions .
yemantaru...
Posted by: Mr. M.S.Reddy At: 6, Sep 2002 1:54:44 PM IST
Either its a love marriage or arranged marriage its all our fate whether we will be happy in our marriage lifeo r not.Most of the people who r love married r seperate after 1 r 2 years(may be that is not the love but infactuation).And most of the arraned marriage people living even if they have differences.(that is bcoz of giiving respect to parents)
But i think both cases if the couple r like tow rails going in parrel no body cant do anything either system.
So its all depends on ur destiny...
sreeni
Posted by: Mr. M.S.Reddy At: 6, Sep 2002 12:49:05 PM IST
Hello Prasanthi garu,
"Jeevitantam baadhapadaali pillalu. Peddavaalla kadupuna puttinanduku, pillalaki idaa, peddavaallu iche bahumaanaam."
Ee statement ni nenu oppukonandee,manaki janma nivvadame parents manaki ichche bahumanam
Meeru cheppinanatha dharunamga now a days parents vundadam ledhandee,ee madya chala marriages jaruguthunnaye pillalu istapadinavi.ee kalam lo abbayelu ammayelu kooda alochinche love chesthunnaru nijamgane dhenne[tp.com lo oka discussion lo] practical love antunnaremo andhuke parents kooda pelliki oppukuntunnaremo anipisthundhi naaku Santhosham movie lo oka dialouge “ 20 years premaga penchina koothuru maa andharini vadali vellipothundhante avathali abbaye elanti vaadu ani okka kshanam alochinchi vunte bagundedhi” ani ala okka kashanam parents alochinchali,I think alochisthunnarane anukuntunnanu,alochinchali kooda.
Posted by: Mrs. Aruna At: 6, Sep 2002 12:08:39 PM IST
Why should elders go against Love marriages? What is wrong with them? Now-a-days youth are matured(may be not everyone).
Why don't they understand their children's feelings?
Why don't elders check and test the person selected by their children, and agree? Here they should accept based on their character, but not on their property,caste, religion etc.,
All are one, God is equal ani nerpina peddavaalle, tama pillala pellilla vishayam lo maarakundaa untunnaaru.
Jeevitantam baadhapadaali pillalu. Peddavaalla kadupuna puttinanduku, pillalaki idaa, peddavaallu iche bahumaanaam.
Kapuram cheyaalsindi, kalisi undaalsindi, pillalu, kaanee pedda vaallu kaadu kadaa. enduku pillala ishtaaniki vyatirekamgaa peddalu veltaaru? balavantamgaa, ishtaaniki vyatirekamgaa pelli cheste, sardukupogalaremo kaanee, santhosham gaa undaleru.
I feel that youth should be given freedom to select their life partners. But they should wait and convince their parents by proving that their love is sincere and true.
Love cum Arranged is good.
Arranged marriages lo ayithe, manasulu kaliste parvaaledu, lekapote chaalaa baadhapadaali. Peddavaallu kevalam, asthi pastulu, hodaa, chaduvu, udyogam ivi maatrame choostaaru. Pillalu emotional compatability korukuntaaru.
ee rojullo yuvatha, sareeraani kannaa, artham chesukone manasunu korukuntundandi. Ofcourse andaroo alaage kaakapovacchu.
Advantages and Disadvantages dentlo ayinaa untaayi.
Please forgive me if I hurt anyone's feelings.
Posted by: Ms. Prasanthi Uppalapati At: 5, Sep 2002 10:11:23 PM IST
Love dosen't consist of gazing into each others eyes, but looking out at the world together - don't know who said that but that is what love should be and a marriage based on that will be successful. Lust is what 16 and 17 year olds go through in Telugu (Hindi too) movies and that is total bs and crappola.
On the other hand, if you were raised in the traditional way - that is to make the best of what you have and not go against elders, then an arranged marriage is the way to go.
Posted by: darinapoyye danayya At: 5, Sep 2002 8:43:59 PM IST
In my opinion love marriages are best because we both can understand our views. Suppose if it is arranged Marriage we could not understand her views and mentalaties.Present Days Lovers are spending their most of time in Praks and Hotels and they feel it as love.But its not the true love. They both should understand eachother. So i prefer Love Marriages.
Posted by: Mr. SivaSankaraVaraPrasad K At: 5, Sep 2002 5:45:32 PM IST
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