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General Forum: Love | | Can love at first sight be the true love? | |
| Well i agree with MR GKA that ...manasu kalla tho chusi premanu gurtinchadam. Well i too read the story of the anonymous user but its not " bewakufy" ....she i think added in the last that by being truthful and sincere to ourselves and towards the other person will lead to success.
The question depends on how truthful you are and how sincere you are. In daily life gals come across many handsome guys and guys come across many beautiful girls towards whom we may not feel any thing. So definitly love at first sight is not attraction if it is seen by "manasu" and not eyes. Hundreds and thousands of men and women get attracted towards actors, cricketers and actresses and beauty queens........they may not feel any thing else except attraciton.So definitely thats not love. When you feel something towards a person though you are seeing him or her firsttime , there is nothing wrong in analysing that feeling ( ofcourse not at the expense of studies and career ....but we can definitley spare some time for that). SO finally what i think is love is a very difficult concept to understand and if we talk to thousand people about love we will get thousand different opinions. I agree with the idea given by the anonymous user as to not to take any inspiration from the experience of another anonymous user but definitely its not "bewakufy". If it is so all those people who fell in love at first sight and who have been successful are bewakufs ( what an idiotic word) which they are not. IF we go on writing and talking about love ee jeevitha kaalam saripodu....so bye folks
Posted by: Ms deepa v At: 5, Nov 2001 10:29:32 PM IST
Yes "love at first sight" is true love, coz u take decision without much calculation. At the same time its a STUPIDITY coz decision without calculations is like a lottery and only few people can succeed. I request people who read the story of anonymous to not to take her as inspiration, u may not be that lucky......its just bewakufy
Posted by: Mr Anand Rao At: 5, Nov 2001 11:26:09 AM IST
Hi
I hope this discussion is still going on.
I strongly support Mr.Venkateswara Rao's opinion.
Love means it's a belief, it's a concern between two people. If you are living together, meeting together by our behaviour it will goes on increasing with the time.
Love at first site is only an attraction towards a person.. it's not true love. How can you say without knowing anything about that person you are in love with him.
As like Mr.Rao this is purely my opinion.
I wish every body has to get that pure love.
Posted by: Ms Madhu T At: 5, Nov 2001 11:15:54 AM IST
hey all, iam a staunch supporter of love at first sight........coz my life is a perfect example of it......iam happily married to the person with whom i fell in love at first sight...by the way we got married on valentines day.
Before i met my husband i never thought of love etc keep aside thinking i din't even believe.....i thought only those people will fall in love who have nothing to do in life . Some where i read a logical reason for people falling in love ....that you will start liking a person if u find a quality or qualities which u don't have....quite probable....but this again is not love at first sight .
Now i believe in pyaar kiya nahi jaata.....ho jaata hai. There is a strong line of difference between attraction and falling in love........Why is that your heart and your soul reacts only towards one person (though u are seeing him or her first time) and not towards all . So its some thing divine which only a few lucky people can experience and iam very happy to be one of them. I want to say one more thing there is nothing wrong in falling in love at first sight and persuing that first love ........but be truthful and sincere to urself and the other person.....and it will be a great success.......regards.....anonymous
Posted by: Ms deepa v At: 3, Nov 2001 10:10:33 PM IST
Hi all..
Today is saturday "half day" here. So continuing in this discussion...Tomorrow sunday nobody will be there...I think.
However..
Great analysis!! I couldnot have done as she...But My heart feels something is missing in this analysis.
Can some other analysts fill this....
cheers
Murli
Posted by: Mr. prasanth N At: 3, Nov 2001 1:37:22 PM IST
Love at first site can be true !
yeah! there reason is below;
Let me give a completely different perspective of this. I strongly belive that something can never be logically deducted (not to 100% though partially can be done). and those something involves emotions.I would like to quote this here
"Love is triumph of imagination over intelligence"
Hold onnnn! :-) I knew, we the humans are so much involved in logic, science ,tech etc etc that we cant accept this in the first place. It may look funny for you to read this stuff. :-).Dont you think.... how bad our mom, dad may be we love them! Can anyone give reason why we like them though we can find many faults in them; why we love them more than many who when looked without any prejudice may be a better personality; (say, we love our parents more than Gandhi though we Mahatma could be a better personality comparitively.)why we like our friends for all their faults. Yeah! one answer our brain gives is that they too show back the same love; and may be thats the reason. But it could happen with anyone not necessarily our mom,dad or best friends; Certainly if we can shower love on someone it will be responded.But we happen to give our love to very few and I believe its a difficult question to answer why????? (I agree I am not capable of answering it... dont know if you can really answer).
So what I tried to "prove" (not a proff actually :-)) is that some things cannot always be deduced from pure logic. They just exist because our heart play a vital role in our life along with brain. (can always heart be logical????? answer it yourself)
fine, now coming to the point;
love as far as I know is, something which makes us do everythign for the person we love. (Notice, I dont knwo what why we love a person; but once we are in love we know how the person reacts... we just know the consequence and not the reason. Ofcourse the reason itself is a very mysterious thing as I mentioned earlier.) Can anyone really give the reason for loving a person???? yes, somethings like handsomeness/beauty or intelligence or humour or money :-).......or something which one can never even realize. And the last one (dont know why one loves) is popularly labelled as attraction. :-). But somehow the part of "attraction" is controversial issue only when it comes to love between opposite sexes. and not anywhere else; (as I mentioned we cant give reasons why we love only "our people" for all their faults). Even your enemy could be a great friend only if we really tried to shower some love over him, but we dint and we dont. we just select only only some people and the reason is unknown.
THe same thing I believe, will hold even here. Love at first sight. May be we dont know the reason why we like him/her but as long as 'that unknown reason' keeps us to accept all his/her faults, I dont think there is anythign wrong in it or why it cant be "practical". (this word "practical" is somehting I dont like to use it in some cases. I find it out of context for some topics;anyways).
So it can prove to be sucessful; reasons unspecified. well, though, to many, this may not sound good! :-) this is somehting to be thought with heart than with brain.And this has never been experimented; so I may not give a proof for all the intellectual minds here. :-).and finally for the people who really are in love, hey! just experience the nice feeling of being in love than to waste your time and energy on logical things like these. Its a very precious time dont miss it spending your time here :-)
" You have only one moment in your hands - the real moment.And you will not get this moment again.Either you live it or leave it unlived." ---- Osho
Enjoy!
Posted by: Ms Samatha G At: 3, Nov 2001 10:58:54 AM IST
Hello hello.......
the way people are thinking is exactly wrong, I acept that Mother's love is the pure love. and there is another kinds of love is also there Mr/Ms anonymous user .. see in real life there are few people who dare to give their life in the name of friendship, I am sure that this is also a kind of love, One great friend of mine he gave his life on-behalf of his friend in a fight in his village, at such situations, he done more than that of his mothet or father can do. so i hope this is TRUE LOVE.
and comming to Mr. Gopi's Question, See, LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT may be true in some ways.
Just take an example, You are meeting a friend today, Just he will be ramain as a friend for few days, as the days goes on, when you came to understand about him and VICE-VERSA, If your understanding are pretty good, then you will defnetly become good and bestfriends, so, to make a good friendship with a boy/men/girl/women itself taking a long long time. and if some thing happens to your friend you will feel with your heart...
So by just seeing a girl for first time and fall in love with her will wont and never work in normal life, If you are feeling that you fall in love witha girl at your fisrt sight, it defnetly can not be love, it is "INFACTUATION"and "ATTRACTION" . nothing more than that.. Because LOVE IS PURE, IN real world the only thing which we can not buy with money is LOVE. So love influences lot of factors, such a love in relation, love in friendship, like those, to make such love it will take more time.., so with out knowing about anything about a girl/boy, what factor can influence you to fall in love at sight... , it just some thing like what i said above.....
So my Decesion is "LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT" can not be TRUE LOVE.
Its just my decesion, the decesion or your way of thinking may be different, i just presented my decesion, i hope no one is feeling bad about my answer, if i hurted anybodys heart , i am very sorry for that....
your answers are very much expected........
Posted by: Mr. Venkateswara Rao Nuthalapati At: 3, Nov 2001 9:31:08 AM IST
First let me tell u one thing.true love can't
be given/shared by anyone !.yah.This is real.
(Even mother also expects some times.sometimes
only !).But u can say mother's love is true
and selfless coz that selfish ness is acceptable.
Else nothing in this universe is true love.
Most are commercialized...
Posted by: Mr. Ramakoti Reddy Vaddula At: 3, Nov 2001 5:18:58 AM IST
Hi Guys,
Dont believe in love shown in movies, thats not practical. i dont say not to watch movies or not to love. but dont be too influenced by films. so many factors matter in real life, our study, job, career, family fame and all. so i'm with what Suji says. but hey Suji.... everyone has right to express their views, if u dont like, say it cool, but not such harsh. anyway what u said is right. i think u r highly motivated in studies. best of luck
Srinivas
Posted by: Mr. Srinivas Angara At: 25, Oct 2001 10:54:32 AM IST
what a stupid question.......Well the person who is asked this really knows what he is asking........Simply he wants to waste others time........so he is doing this..........discuss something good & for the guy who is asked this question...." please find a girl & fall in love & if she ditches u then ask her this question..." otherwise.........do something useful to mankind.........
Posted by: Mr Manjunath reddy At: 21, Oct 2001 1:41:44 PM IST
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