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| Hi All,
Am very happy to join with you in regards to an interesting topic "dowry". Marriage is not a business where a person come to grooms market and pay money at cash counter and takes away Girl for an agreement for life long partner. If this is the case "dowry" needs to renamed.
If the girl parents while in search for bride needs to really care many issues like Job, his charecter, family and education.Why he needs so much selective? A parent who gave birth to a girl and made her grow is now handover to an unknown personality as a culture to send girl out of their home, till then girl was memeber of that house is no more theirs.
So finally inorder to get a girl married, a parent responsibility is to provide a girl better education, better life and see that she can lead her life independently....finally while giving to groom after marriage as girl parent checked your(groom) background does not mean to pay a cash or property as a culture of "dowry". What if you have 3 girls, does you really support this dowry system if you are in the position of the parent?
There are so many cinimatic defination are availble, but in realistic men basically youth really needs to stop this dowry system. When a girl is leaving their people behind and joining as your partner in turn we men really should take care of her.
Can you tell me what amount ("dowry") will really qualify, if you have good job, eduacation, good finanacial status. Being with all if your worth is 50 lakhs, how much do you deserve? 10 lakh in return or 20 lakh in return for your qualification? then does that money stay with you, what will you do if you evoporate all the "dowry" you have taken? what if you want additional money to lead your life, ask for additional money ( as you already habituated)? What you are doing is a pure business taking care of someone resposibility (bride) with their own money (when you conver with interest).
Though am not yet married, if I get chance to marry I will strictly follow non dowry system, which makes all the people happy and minimum in return will get good respect atleast from family members.
Finally, all these are my openion. Life is mere hardly u will lead 40 to 50 years once you marry, better welcome a nice partner who will share and care. Which is more than a million dollors worth. Done price love.
Thanks
Kesava
Posted by: Mr. Kesava Kumar Grandhi At: 13, Jul 2002 11:37:29 PM IST
Hi! All,
I am new to this group but I read a lot of your views. I think when you are talking about this topic, if you unmask yourself from the feeling of a male or female, you will be able to think broad-mindedly.I have never considered dowry as a good tradition in India ,not atleast when both the male and female are educated and working. I feel that the dowry system prevents the girls from finding the right guy(or the person they like because they cannot reach out to them)and vice versa. If some parents consider it pride to display all the money they can give to their daughters, then let them do that, but why should this be like an enforced thing to do on poor parents. Parents' responsibility is to let the children grow up with good values, good education and ambition in life. If beyond these, they can also give a lot of money, great!! but why should it be mandatory?
Posted by: Miss Meghana Nimmagadda At: 7, Jul 2002 5:46:58 AM IST
simple then let change ourselves first
LOL
Posted by: Mr. M.S.Reddy At: 30, May 2002 8:45:40 PM IST
WHERE ALL WENT.
SO NOW THE QUESTION IS WHO HAS TO CHANGE.
GIRLS OR BOYS
Posted by: Mr. M.S.Reddy At: 30, May 2002 2:36:32 PM IST
"you are taking very thing prestagious" can you explain that please Mr.Aprao? I can't understand your excellent english.
btw - are you in the front lines that you don't have time? anyhow you are the one who spends time writing mini essays in this forum
Posted by: darinapoyye danayya At: 30, May 2002 0:25:37 AM IST
hi ,
mari ammayalu yemanna takkuva tinnara.if u see any matrimonial most of them want
"WELL SETTLED,WORKING ABROAD,"like this only right.That means there in importance for anything other than money for them alos right.
Posted by: Mr. M.S.Reddy At: 29, May 2002 11:37:01 AM IST
jalapally garu,
Yalam had a lengthy posting supporting varakatnam, and so did you. but then yalam turned around and cribs about girls wanting to marry "Indian working guy"
Also, you can't expect readers to understand what you try to tell -they will understand what you write.
regarding my name - you got the spelling wrong - it is danayya, not Dhanayya. OK it is Ravi, then again it may be Srinu - do either names remove my mask for you? :)
Posted by: darinapoyye danayya At: 29, May 2002 2:07:19 AM IST
100% true? where did you get your statistics from yalam?? aha manalo maata how many US girls did u actually meet?
so guys can take dowry but girls should not want a settled guy? - what a girl should give lots of dowry and marry an unemployed looser??
"guys are scaring(sic) to marry" because of expectations? did you see any matrimonial ads lately - most guys want very beautiful, very fair, tall, slim, convent educated, mix of east and west girls. how much expectation is that from a woman??
Posted by: darinapoyye danayya At: 29, May 2002 0:02:58 AM IST
wow jalapally - you have taken dowry justification to a new level. as long as there are guys like you out there, the system will never get better.
Posted by: dhara d At: 25, May 2002 8:40:25 AM IST
I dont think there is any point in arguing about this topic as long as dowry is a tradition everywhere in India.Especially I heard that each caste has its own rates.this is heinous.yet,its true.I know many people from my college who say that depending upon the caste and the degree of the groom,the dowry can be in tens of lakhs.for some people its a prestigious issue.
Posted by: Mr. Madhusudan Karri At: 25, May 2002 5:07:43 AM IST
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